My wife thanks seperate bank accounts andother trivial things should be different and I am old school and think we should share these things!
2006-09-19 20:03:48 · 8 answers · asked by marine_one1996 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can only speak from my own marriage and that is my husband and I have our own separate savings, checking accts but we do share 1 joint acct we both put money into as we both have our own jobs. The joint acct is used for buying household items and paying the bills. The reason we have it set up this way is because my husband is a big spender and we like to have emergency money just in case something comes up.
As far as our activities are concerned, we give each other space to do our own activities, hobbies and personal pursuits. In this way, we can both grow as individuals and not be in each other's shadow all the time. We spend a lot of time doing the same things together but we have our own individual interests and it's important for both of us to have the space for that.
2006-09-19 20:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we first were married my wife and I were excited to have joint accounts... it took about two months until it drove us nuts and we went back to separate accounts. We have complete trust in each other and both accounts are our money. The thing is that we both use check cards and sometimes that can be tough to draw from the same account when you don't always know what the other is doing throughout the day. My wife and I split the mortgage payment right down the middle every month and then we both have specific bills and payments that we keep up every month. It works great for us. I mean, there are always little things that I buy here and there, and her too... we don't always need to share where every $20.00 goes... It is whatever works best for each couple... try hard not to let finances become a sore subject in your marriage. Compromise.
2006-09-20 03:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not secure, give her the security. If she still insists on separate bank accounts then let her be. It is too small a thing to make an issue out of. I dont really know the details of your situation so I can only give general comments.
2006-09-20 03:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married couple should respect each other's views and values to stay together.
You have to come to a compromise which is acceptable to both. The guiding principle here is to "give and tkae" both ways.
2006-09-20 03:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married and should share everything. Why have separate accts or whatever..just that much more to keep up with...Married couples are supposed to share everything..
2006-09-20 03:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, keep your own account and let her keep hers. You run the home with yours and let her spend hers on herself. But of course if there is love, she will occasionally buy stuff needed in the home from her own purse too. Cheers
2006-09-20 03:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u will have separate lives, why marry in the first place, just join the millions of american couples who just live together, or even smarter and stay single.... then u can just do whatever it is u want to do.
2006-09-20 03:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right but her way is becoming the norm these days. I don't understand it, but, it seems to work for some, just not me.
2006-09-20 03:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by justhanginout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋