OK, I met a guy online a few months ago.....we talked on the phone for a while. We decided we were gonna wait 1 year to meet in person. We just wanted to get to know each other on a different level first without any "strings". There was no "cybering" as people put it....we just met in a chat room and things took off from there. I fell head over heals with this guy over the phone. All of the sudden he tells me he is going to try to work things out with his ex wife "for the sake of the kids" . So, we backed off and didn't talk for a month. He calls me tonight out of the clear blue sky....tells me he actually has custody of the kids she just gave them up...and he misses me, and he thought about me everyday....yadayadayada.....I missed him too, and I want to talk to him to but I am so scared of getting hurt again. I am not a desperate person, we just have so much in common and he can make me laugh, and oh ya all know....he is "everything I would want in a man". Do I give him another chance
2006-09-19 19:54:21 · 17 answers · asked by justhanginout 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is already divorced and has been for a while. I know he isn't living with her, because I would call just whenever I wanted and I had home phone, cell phone, and work phone so I don't believe he is with her.
2006-09-19 19:58:55 · update #1
hi, i dontcare what others told u.and dont even wan tto read. but as for me i can tell u the following..
i am married, had a child who died. husb isnt near for long time-works abroad. i met a guy in a chatroom.he is everything i ever wanted.
but after a month of writing to each other i told him i can twrite any more. coz i am married. adn he stopped writing (adn he is right i think) but passed already from june...2 months...and i still luv him and miss him, and still hope he will call me one day and still hope i will have courage from god to tell my hubby i dont luv him anymore.
u just listen to ur heart, ok?
wish u success.
2006-09-19 20:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by notme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you are not desperate, yet your actions suggest otherwise. How can you be so sure of your feelings for someone you haven't even met. Over the phone or Internet a person can pretend to be whomever he chooses.
He leave you in limbo for a while and then reappear with a different status...and you're hanging onto his every words. You have absolutely no idea what type of person he really is or what he's about. Yet you volunteer and put yourself in this uniquely strange position.
You must get a grip and act like you love yourself first. You have set yourself to not only be hurt, but to possibly be in danger as well.
Please...develop more pride in yourself. Is a stranger worth all this?
2006-09-20 03:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of people think my outlook on life right now is a little screwy because my husband commited suicide about a month ago, but, my opinion it's opened my eyes. that guy was upfront with you and told you about the ex so he's probably tellin the truth now too. you can't spend the rest of your life being scared, you don't know how long it's gonna last, for real!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!give im a chance.
2006-09-20 03:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've never met in person so don't dive-in. Test the water first. You said yourself, you're not desperate so just blend in and enjoy the feeling while it last but if the feeling goes strong between the both of you for months well he probably is the one for you. Good Luck!!! ^_^
2006-09-20 03:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jowi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you feel like he won't hurt you again, and you really strongly have feelings for him, then sure give him a chance. What is there to loose, if it works out then you are with the love of your life, if not, then, at least you know that you tried. Good Luck with what ever you decide
2006-09-20 02:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl..u only live once..if u dont you will always be wondering if it would have worked out between you both.sure u could get hurt again but that is a gamble we all take in every relationship.you cant spend the rest of your life worrying that u may get hurt in relationships..just bite the bullet...
and i wish you all the best.....U GO GIRL!!!!!
2006-09-20 02:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by emma h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds dicey..tread carefully and take ur time before u committ. Suggest u dont hurry and wait it out till u r absolutely sure of everything..Honestly i think this may not work
2006-09-20 02:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by big b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's everything you'd want -- you only see what he wants you to see right now.
Until he's divorced, he is a MARRIED MAN. And married men will tell you anything if they're planning to cheat.
2006-09-20 02:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you love him wouldn't he be worth giving a second chance? Go for it.
2006-09-20 03:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance.
2006-09-20 03:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by kido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋