Honestly for the past 8 years I have been married to a stoner. I turned into one after a few years and now I am a full on addict. Funny thing is, that I quit once a week, trying to sober myself up because I know it is wrong. Well I am in the middle of another sobering up try and I hate life right now. I hate my man for turning me down this path and I hate myself for going along with it. I live with him and my 2 wonderful straight A kids, (amaxing huh)_ yes my kids always meant the world to me. Now that my kids are school age I am trapped with this druggie and every time I try to sober up he is dragging me back and cannot get quality work Someone rescue me. Help me live while I go to school and make something of myself. Sure some of you will be unsympathetic but someone out there knows where I am. HELP ME!!! My only talent in the whole world is being a good mom.
2006-09-19 19:45:16 · 17 answers · asked by aouija 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Great advice but where is my knight in shining armor???
2006-09-19 19:55:38 · update #1
So many caring people, give me an option other than leaving my man because I have nowhere to go.
2006-09-19 19:58:44 · update #2
I have contacted my local church, pray for me.
2006-09-20 05:17:24 · update #3
I'm sorry to tell you this but it is next to impossible to get off the sheat when your living with someone that has no intention of getting straight.
Another thing I'm afraid to tell you is that parents who use drugs...Have kids that use drugs.
I know what I am talking about here. My girlfriend was a serious druggie. Both hard and casual. Her last boyfriend was the same. She was trying to get off the stuff with no success. She finally just decided that enough was enough, and she left him. We got together and she has been clean ever since. And she is much happier for it. She says all the time that she would never have been able to do that without me. I am really proud of her.
You can do it too. But you need to let him know that he has to do it too. You can not be free of drugs with him doing them all the time. It's next to impossible.
Good luck.
I hope this helps.
2006-09-19 19:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the best thing I heard or read from that question is 'The only talent in the whole world I have is being a good mom.' You hold onto that and use that as your driving force. You don't want your kids to be druggies or smack-heads. What do you think they're going to do when they see their pivotal role model i.e their mother on drugs? You need to stop wallowing in self pity and drag yourself back up off the ground. You have kids who you know you can give a good quality of life to. So, go ahead and do it and you know the only way you can truly do this is by being clean. Get away from people who drive you back into the druggie lifestyle, whatever false promises they might make. As I said before you have your kids to think about and their future. So, give yourself a chance, if for no better reason, than to give your kids one.
2006-09-20 02:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell your husband to clean up his act and you must get help as well. There are all sorts of programs out there to help you do this.
If your husband refuses to at least try to sober up, then divorce him. I know this will be hard but you need to put your kids first. It isn't healthy for them to grow up in that environment and they may start taking drugs as well when they're older. Do you want your kids to deal with the problems you're facing now?
Also, being a good mom is a great talent to have. Why not use those nuturing skills to become a nurse or a teacher? Yes, it will be hard earning a degree seeing as how you have two kids to raise, but you got to earn money somehow.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 02:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best recovery programs that I have ever see are faith based like one in CA called Teen Challenge. They have a very good program for women with kids. Take a picture of your kids and put it in a frame with the back side (blank) of picture out. Keep it close by and realize that is what will happen to your kids if you do not get a handle on this problem. You will not see them any more but you will know that they are there. Save yourself and therefore your kids and let your husband deal!!!
2006-09-20 02:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amanda,
Focus on the good things in your life, your child, and open mind to change.....you'll find strength within yourself not from a church. You sound like you know what's best deep inside you, no need for a knight in shinning amour. That approach got you nowhere, didn't it?
All the best!
2006-09-20 21:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by wandering_canuck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want the best for yourself and for your AMAZING kinds (wink) If your husband isn't willing to sober up and be a MAN, then that is HIS problem. I suggest you take the kids and leave. You want to be smart. He doesn't. Thumbs up for you to KNOW what's right and wrong. Stay strong. The time will come when you will know what's best; Leave him, or stay and work it out.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 03:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lay it on the line, tell him you have had enough and if he doesn't clean up then he can ship out. you've got to stand on your own two feet and not rely on him, be prepared to back up any statements that you make and don't fault er. You know that he's dragging you down and it's you who is letting him. Get that backbone and make a stand!
2006-09-20 02:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by Im_a_ gummie_Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot! Did you know that by admitting that you're a drug addict on Y! Answers there's a possibility that someone will report you to Child Protection Services?? Is it me?? Hmmm maybe...unless we can come to an agreement on something. Let me just get a screen capture of this question with all of the details for safekeeping 'n' e-mail me ASAP...or else! Did you know that yahoo has your IP address?????...(evil laughter)HAHAHAHA
thewanderer862006@yahoo.com
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Hey, e-mail me with a real e-mail address because the yahoo service doesn't allow me to respond to your messages.
2006-09-20 20:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey... Give priority to your kids and try to love them as much as you can, and try to forget all. Be a good mum in the practical way of life also.
2006-09-20 02:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Gopalakrishnan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phone book for a drug rehab or counseling place. they may have 1-800 numbers to call to get you help. If that doesn't work find a church that may help you or lead you in the right direction. Please do it soon for your children before it's to late.
2006-09-20 04:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋