A friend of mine asked me if these are the signs when a husbands best friend has the hots for the wife. My friend is confuse and worried.
Her husband's best friend made a misterious call to her cell phone, she cought him staring at her many times, when she hands something out him, he would try to touch her hands.
If these are the signs of him liking her, should she tell her husband, or just keep it to herself not to cause problems betweent the husband and best friend?
2006-09-19 19:06:49 · 29 answers · asked by Brenda U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should tell her husband about her suspicions. She is more important to her husband than his friend is.
2006-09-19 19:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best friend is the one causing the problems. He knows she's taken. If she's uncomfortable with how he treats her, yes, she should tell her husband and be casual about it and see how the husband reacts. He may question his friend and threaten him but she will know that she did the right thing because he's disrespecting her husband by making advances on her. That's NO friend!
2006-09-20 02:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by A. D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a sticky situation. if she says something to the husband it could jepordaize the friendship unecessarily if the best friend doesn't have the hots for the wife. but then again what kind of friend is he being if he is trying to get with his best friends wife? i think he might like your friend and that she should ask the husband if he sees what she is seeing. then he can make his own judgment.
2006-09-20 02:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by April H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy you feel uncomfortable with the hand contact and staring. Keep it between you and him. If he doesn't change his behavior then cut his taters off and tell your husband. BUT you better be sure it's not just something you're imagining. You could ruin a friendship over something that is meant as a compliment.
2006-09-21 00:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should make it plain to the 'friend' that she wants nothing to do with him. She should pull her hands away and frown at him when he tries to touch them. Maybe she should put him on the spot by asking him why he's staring at her. And tell him not to call her anymore. If all this fails then, yes, tell her husband. Because the 'friend' is no friend.
2006-09-20 02:18:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me being the husband, its hard to say if I would want to know, but I believe that this is some ways of flirting and it might be better if you confront the friend first and let him know that this is unacceptable. If it persists, then make the husband aware and inform him that you have warned him once and you thought that would do. Goodluck!
2006-09-20 02:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not be judicious on best friend's intentions. Tell your husband all what you felt and experienced. tell your husband clearly on incidents you are sure about and tell what all incidents do not pass clear message and then let your husband decide what to do. DO NOT TAKE ANY STEP ON YOUR OWN without the consent of your husband . this will worsen the situation further.
here : you=your friend
2006-09-20 02:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Newmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that telling the husband is a good idea until somthing happens that makes the friends intentions a little more clear.
2006-09-20 02:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best way to approach this is to have her ask her husband if her has noticed his friend paying particular attention to her, especially if she is feeling uncomfortable with the attention. If the husband isn't too worried about it then she could suggest that he ask his friend to stop as she feels uncomfortable with the attention he is focussing on her.
2006-09-20 02:26:08 · answer #9 · answered by wolfangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should handle it HERSELF. Telling her husband might not be a good idea just yet. It's best that she takes care of it herself first. IF that doesn't work, then she should let her husband in on it. Until then, let her take care of it.
2006-09-20 02:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry yet. No definite signs yet. But she should not try to encourage anything, and nothing should be mentioned to husband yet. However, it could be a pre-beginning which will eventually lead to a beginning of trouble. But even then, it's not too late for her to turn away and discourage anything further.
2006-09-20 02:11:43 · answer #11 · answered by misty_blue2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋