An out of shape blob that used to be that"Hottie"? Do you believe one has a responsibility to keep fit at least to the degree they were when you married. It seems like bait and switch.
2006-09-19 19:05:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you (not you, questioner, but the people who marry studs and babes) thought you married a "stud" or a "babe", then they are probably disappointed to discover that they married an "idiot" who saw them as an eternally perfect 20-something sex doll and not as a human being.
while fitness is important at any age, it is also important to realize that with age, the metabolism slows, the skin dries, the kids crack a woman's pelvis wider so that she can give birth, and the kids don't leave either parent much time for exercise, sex, or anything else aerobic. the beer and fast food take their toll. (like either of you feels like cooking w/ kids and work. and with no exercise to make your body feel better, you want food to make you feel better.)
so the best solution is to wake up and make love, chuck the kids out the door, work, hit the gym at lunch hour and eat a healthy packed lunch when you get back to your desk, work some more, go home, workout if you had a luncheon or what-not, pick kids up from daycare or watch them get off the late bus, play in backyard with younger kids (counts as a workout), eat sandwiches for dinner, and make love before you go to sleep. and love your bodies and your wrinkles and fat and imperfections and especially each other.
2006-09-19 19:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by miss advice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married a stud and he married a babe (lol) and we are both very physically active. I'm a runner and a surfer. He's a cyclist and also a surfer. We do these things simply because we love to be physically active, not because we are trying to impress each other as we can do that with our attitudes alone.
2006-09-20 02:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the man I love... No matter what shape he is in whether it be a blob, a pear or Mr. Universe I will always see him as the man I love...
I didn't marry him for his body I married him for his humor, kindness, understanding, and non judgemental attitude...
Maybe you could learn a thing or two and not be judgemental...
2006-09-20 02:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a "stud" and a "babe" and a "sweetie" and a "good man" and I do my best to keep in shape, watch my diet, exercise, and I look good for my age, so I am told. It takes a lot of work. But it's worth it to see the look in his eyes and to see yourself in the mirror.
2006-09-20 02:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by misty_blue2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- because i don't think you should marry someopne just because they are a stud or a hottie. it should be more than that. my husband would have blown away in a hurricane. he has since put on weight and muscle and is more of a stud no than ever.....but i didn't marry him for his body. i married him because i love who he is on the inside and he is my best friend. you should stay healthy but there should be no promises made of staying that hottie.
2006-09-20 02:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by April H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My babe and I aren't the hotties that we used to be long ago, but we are still "doable" and I think it is a shame when people let themselves go just because screw it I got me mate. You need to give your guy a "nudge" without being a nag and work out with him so he gets motivated. Good Luck!!
2006-09-20 02:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by bec3tiny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a stud, we have both gained weight, i know it sucks, but we love each other still, no matter what, we plan to get in shape, and look better.
2006-09-20 02:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that one should keep themselves in shape.But it is not always easy.There may be other reasons the person is not in shape.Such as,having a baby,illness and or depression.Finding time to exercise together is a good way to get back in shape ,both physically and mentally.
2006-09-20 02:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bait and switch huh? That sounds more like a purchase than a marriage. For better or for worse, remember? I'd rather my spouse gain a little weight than be so many other undesirable things. Like a cheater, selfish, mean, cheap, a liar, etc. You need to re-examine your values.
2006-09-20 02:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When i married him we both a stud and a babe.. but we love eating so now we don really care what become of us as long there is delicious food everywhere! haha lol
2006-09-20 02:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋