I would at least like to meet them! I have no problem with her having male friends as long as they are not Meth Addicts. I am not trying to be her father just her husband who cares about her safety! Control her life is the farthest thing from my mind! I would just like the respect of meet these people, cause I do the same thing for her!
2006-09-19 19:03:57 · 25 answers · asked by marine_one1996 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife I and I had a fight about this tonight! I have only asked her to sever her ties with three people of which all had addiction problems and were constantly asking her to use with them! My wife used to use several years ago and has since given up on the stuff! I just do not want the temtation there for her cause i am proud of the fact she was able to straighten out her life. But she seems to think I will judge everyone she knows and make an *** out of her in front of the rest of her friends and she will lose there friendship. I have never given her a reason to think that until resently due to one of her girlfriends called our house and told me I was rude to her on my phone. This same friend has always thought I have never liked her which is untrue but I lost my temper( which I admit was wrong) But I was tired of trying my damnedest to please her! So now my wife thinks I will be like this to all her friends!
2006-09-19 19:17:10 · update #1
Ok lets clear something up! I do appreciate all of your responses! I am not saying she can not have male friends and yes I have introduced her to all me friends male and female! I just believe cause of my Christianity that a wife should not go out and meet another male without her husband knowing who this person is! I would never not include her in my relationship with other females. We bot have been married before and both our spouses cheated on us! I do trust her but she does not trust in the fact that all I want to do is just get to know who these people are, without causing problems I am not the jealous type i just like to be informed!
2006-09-19 19:27:31 · update #2
no not at all, in fact i would not allow it.
2006-09-19 19:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to her and remind her that you only want the best for your relationship. Part of that is knowing where she is and what she's doing. The Bible says that in fact a wife and husband should not go to places without each other...it also speaks about adultery...
Adultery is not a thing which happens overnght usually. It generally takes some sort of event, for example if your wife had the sudden desire for one of these guys. Fromthen on, it's time and opportunity. When she gets the chance, she may commit adultery. That's why it's important to show her how much you love her by explaining that her having other male friends is fine as long as you are always aware. A good husband has to protect the weaker vessel which he loves. Remember, Eve was deceived in Eden because Satan knew that.
2006-09-20 02:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by delanodesroches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 100% right!! Sexual tension is inherent in almost every male-female relationship, whether it's acknowledged or not.
Why does she feel the need for male companionship other than yours? It's a dangerous thing, and can't help but make you feel that you're inadequate somehow. She is wrong here. What will she do when one of them eventually makes a pass at her (and sooner or later it will happen)?
You might try calmly telling her how it makes you feel. I would hope that she cares enough for you to not want to hurt you, and this obviously is.
[PS I am a married female, so this is NOT coming from a controlling male.]
2006-09-20 02:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are married so why is she hanging around other men to begin with?????? That is not right. I would not let her get by with that at all. You are just looking for trouble there if you do. Trust me, I know from experience. If she wants to have guy friends is fine but you should ALWAYS be present so dont let her tell you any different. My ex husband did the same thing she is doing and i gave him my trust and he cheated. Dont let that happen to you.
2006-09-20 02:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by kristen e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think that your wife is the sort of lady who would keep company with meth addicts then yes, by all means ask to meet them. If not, then don't put to much pressure on the issue - do you ask to meet all her female friends.
EDIT - In that case (further to your comments) I think you are well within your rights. Good luck with your relationship and good on you for your support to your wife - it must have been difficult
2006-09-20 02:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 25 yr old woman and I would never even consider hanging out with male friends w/o my husband. He has never asked me to , but that is something that should be understood as to show respect to one another. I think you should tell your wife (in a nice way) that this bothers and slightly offends you. She should understand.
2006-09-20 02:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by sparkyalain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. Arrange a party and get to meet her friends informally. You can invite some of your friends too. It's ok as long as she hangs out with them in a group occasionally. But i'd think twice if she's going out alone just to meet one of her guy friends often.
2006-09-20 02:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by peacelover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just fine. I am sure if the shoe was on the other foot, then we would all be chastizing you. How dare you go out with single unattached females. The same goes for your wife.
Paul Newman once said..."why go out for hamburger when you have steak at home".
2006-09-20 02:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u. It's just common courtesy and decency that u should meet these people she's hanging around with. My husband knows all my friends and I know all his friends. We don't feel a need to hide anything from each other. Besides, it's wrong for her to hang around with single men, especially since u don't even know who they are.
2006-09-20 02:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope she should not be hanging out alone with male friends, thats just asking for problems and she definately shouldnt be hanging out with people that are using especially knowing she used in the past.. even bigger problems..
2006-09-20 02:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its wrong to control her life... by telling her who she can see and who she cant, thats exactly what u doing. You married her knowing she had these friends... its not up to u to try and change her now. Communication is a great thing. Understand her. Trust her. talk to her... theres nothing wrong with expressing your concerns.... just dont tell her what to do. there can always b a compromise...
2006-09-20 02:13:40 · answer #11 · answered by shaniB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋