Hello, My husband and I had split up once due to infidelity on both sides, we have been back together for 5 years since, however, when I go to these girly partys he gets mad when i buy the toys and acts totaly offended and refuses to use them,,do you think the past is a reflection of this attitude?
2006-09-19 18:57:31 · 9 answers · asked by Snake happy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got them ONLY to spice things up for US! He cheated first by the way.....and the toys I got were to be used by two people only
2006-09-19 19:04:08 · update #1
Some guys don't like the thought of something else doing his woman. I my self enjoy helping out or watching. It is just the guy.
2006-09-19 19:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could be part of it. My wife recently went to a sex party and brought home a couple of toys. It made me feel a little insecure, becuase I looked at it from the point of view that maybe I was not satisfing her. When a man compares himself to a battery operated machine, we lose. However, I was looking at it from the wrong perspective. THe toys were not to replace me, but a device that we both could use together, and we have used it before during sex and it made me feel better as to why she bought them. Plus, every now and then if the man happens to be tired or not in the mood, its better for the relationship if his wife can pleasure herself instead of going out-of-home to get it. It might help if you use the toys with him and remind him that pleasuring yourself is something we have all done, and its not a competition. Hope this helps.
2006-09-20 02:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is kind of shy about it and maybe he grew up in a sheltered environment. Most of those sex toys look pretty weird to me. Maybe start out gently? Save the 10 inch black dildos for later?
2006-09-20 02:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just thinks that the reason you did what you did is because he was not satisfying you properly and now the toys are there it is starting over again just talk to him and let him know that he is wrong these things just brings fun to sex
2006-09-20 02:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jamaican Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah...guys just have issues with sex toys, they feel threatened. And their egos wont allow them. it takes a very confident man to accept them at face value. Like this man i know, nothing can deter him,he enjoys any different thing. and it makes me like him even more, becoz he is so confident, his Dikc isnt even THAT big....
2006-09-20 02:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be...could not be. It might his upbringing, the way he learned about sex, or a feeling that you are sending him a message about being inadequate.
Talk with him. Decide how important they are to you. And then negotiate. 3 steps.
2006-09-20 02:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes insecure,need some help using the toys?
2006-09-20 02:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by myke4urnot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No are you serious. Just because you cheated on him and screwed someone else why would he think that he is unable to please you and worry that you need machinery to get the job done.
2006-09-20 02:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he feels your getting more satisfaction from them ---than from him.
2006-09-20 02:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋