I've been hurt so much, I need to know if this is a repeat.?

Question

I have known this girl for about a year to the day. Last year some bad stuff went down with me and her parentals and I had to stop seeing her. But..we kept secretly in contact through e-mails and phone calls. Now heres were it gets interesting. She hooked up with this guy around x-mas time and they went out until around the end of May cause she broke up with him for me, cause her parents said we could hang out again. And then in June we bacame officially together. Now, on our one week versiry she had to go to her ex's house to drop off something and the son of a ***** raped her. She says she didnt want it, but she has been known from friends to stretch the truth. I love her to death, and she says the same, we talk of moving out and marriage one day and having a family...but for i am cautious and try to see where is she is and know what shes doing. Her mom is very strict and wont let her hang out till weekends. DOES SHE MEAN WHAT SHE SAYS OR IS IT A GAME. i wanna die...i cant stand this

Answer 1

Before acting on the dreams for the future the two of you need
to deal with the issues in the relationship.
The most important thing in a relationship is trust.
I have one question
did she file a police report about the rape?
Stretching the truth is one thing but lying about rape is another.
I'd hope she isn't playing a game with your heart because you seem like a great guy.
I'm not one to say to listen to the words of friends.
Friends tend to STRETCH the truth themselves. I believe you and your girlfriend can have a good relationship.Trust is the key!!
A relationship takes a lot of work and dedication.
I hope everything works out for the best. Stay strong .

Answer 2

I don't know. Did she file against the dude for rape? If she didn't, I would be suspicious.

There's really only one trick you need in order to spot that a person is being dishonest with you: If they say one thing, but the their actions are totally different than what they say....that's suspicious. Plus, if they say one thing and don't follow through either, again...suspicious.

Good luck. I've been screwed over many times. Remember to fight to keep your head active in the relationship and not always your heart. When you totally trust your heart, that's when there's trouble for you.

Answer 3

There defenitely are a lot of issues here...however, time out of any relationship would be good for both of you. Give yourselves a chance to focus more on your futures, seperately, and independantly, to give each other space to sort out all confusion. If love is really in the equasion, than each others future should be handled maturely and independantly, gaining respect for one another's individuality. Space will enhance opportunity to reflect of self, and opportunity for any type of advancement towards careers and futuristic goals. Hook up with friends who are supportive of their own career goals who will encourage you towards yours. Within that time frame, life will guide towards the path pertaining to making clearer judgement concerning your interest of taking on any type of relationship and the seriousness of it's depth. To begin in one that has many complications will only increase in stressful environment/s and if you have any goals towards future careers it will have more negative impact rather than focused and positive energies. Therefore a break from this current relationship or putting it on hold until clearer judgement can be obtained would be a wiser choice. Both sides need time to really think things through, to make a right decision that works for one or the other or both. Marriage can always be planned ahead if it is meant to be. Taking time to sort things out and having clear sound judgement ought to be considered and marriage ought to be put more towards a future that holds rewarding careers on both sides. Either way, time is a factor, and an opportunity at this point, and will give you's both more answers as you spend it seperately. It may be a disappointing answer on my part...but the decision is still yours. Your future is what you make of it, wishing you the best, good luck!

Answer 4

That is a very complicated situation. Did she filed rape case for that guy? If she did, that's one assurance that its true and that she really was raped! If she did nothing, then you really have to have a second thoughts with her. Try to search your heart, what is it that you really feel and want. What does your heart and mind says? It is really important to search your heart deeply. Always remember that HONESTY is very important in a relationship,without this everything will be turned to nothing.

Answer 5

if she said- she was raped . some one should have called the police . and with her friends ,saying that she - has been known to stretch the truth. if i were you . i would keep my eyes open. if you think she lies to you . now would be a good time to get out .

Answer 6

Take it from someone who wasted his life on someone that sounds much like the girl you describe. Leave, run, don't walk. In time, you will get over this girl. There are millions of girls you can fall in love with that don't come with these encumberances. Please, for your sake and those around you, get out now.

Answer 7

that is a VERY strong accusation she made! if its true then why wouldn't this guy be in jail----why would she protect him??? get one of your friends [not] you-to call him and get the facts. i would take what your girl says with agrain of salt sense she is already known for lying.

Answer 8

i think sometimes in a person life they realize whats good for them and they change for that person so i say if you look for the worse in people the worse you will get.

Answer 9

again have her get tested the doctor can tell if she was raped