My daughters causin (10) was nearly kidnapped last night, and it has our entire family stressed and really frightened to let our children out of our sight for even a second. Who knowes if the kidnapper wont try again, or even try to take another child that they have seen with her.
We just dont know how to go on as normal when this type of thing never happens to people you know or love. I mean I would have never thought it wouldnt happen to anyone I know.
2006-09-19 18:28:16 · 6 answers · asked by chicata25 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To the person who thinks im lieing-grow the f*** up and watch the news stuped *** hole. Niece would be a brother or sister of mine or my husbands dumb ***. And Mexcan Familys are different than American customs also. So dont act like you know everyhting-hmm whos the drama queen-YOU.
2006-09-19 19:42:46 · update #1
I have been there, but it was my five year old son, at the time. My Ex Husband, too him, away, and never told anyone. Well, police was out,and thank GOD, they found him in VA (I am in NJ, lol) and my son came home, safe and sound.
It is scary, especially not knowing what happened in between. You kids are really resilient, and pop back and don't realize "IDIOTS' as us older gals do! My son felt safe, but knew I was worried, and now he mezmorized the phone no., address, cell phone, etc. He is really great in Cub Scouts, that shows him what to do, and I have taught him about being locked in a car, as a some families lost a lot of children, last spring, about 4 kids, all young. The Adult turned her head, and she stated.......for 15 minutes (too me, too long!) and the kids were missing. They found them, a day later, in a car, that wasn't working, and died from heat exhaustion and the car unable to kick open.
I tried, at the time, to focus on that he is home, safe. His father faced the courts, but of course, a little slap on the hand. I was so irate, my lawyer was upset, that we did get anger managment courses, but, as most cases, which is soooooo terrible, they get away with it, if it is a custody case going! UGH! But, at least it is on record, if he does it EVER again!
But, hang in there, spend time with your cousin (my son is 10, now) talk to him on what to do, as in if locked in a car, kick the tailights, out, cell phones are great, these days, for the younger crowd, as the Disney one has the tracker and the kid could have a cell phone, as most kidnappers don't think of a young child having a cell phone, mezmerize all phone numbers, addresses, 911, if applicable or the number, for the police, in your area, who he can meet, to run and scream that he needs help, and to call the cops, or say FIRE FIRE FIRE, as most people respond to that, than HELP HELP HELP, or RAPE RAPE RAPE, so weird!
But to get over it, you will not, but you will be more aware of your surrondings, teach the younger kids what to do (ABOVE), seek therapy if needed, as I did and my son, as it helped him to understand what his father did, at that time, was bad, but he can be OK, but to keep a look out on things. It is ashame, my son doesn't trust his father, but he has me and my Fiancee to look to, if help is needed. Including his therapist, that he sees, also for other issues, in school!
2006-09-19 18:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jersey Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your child a stun gun and teach her how to use it.
Otherwise be with her 24/7.
Or understand that it could have happened at anytime on any street to anyone and no one is ever truly safe.
The people in the twin towers never thought that a plane would hit the building.
New Orleans never thought that a storm like Katrina would hit them.
The kids in Columbine never thought that they would have two crazed students with guns shooting up the school.
This is life, "it's not all roses," and you have to accept it and go on the best you can, or get put in a padded room and suck your thumb till you die.
:o)
Jerry
2006-09-20 02:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gavin De Beck wrote a book "Protecting the Gift" about protecting children. I do not agree with everything he wrote in the book, but it is a good primer on helping you survive and how to protect your kids. Faith is another crucial aspect to this. Some things only God can help you with. My prayers are with you and your family.
2006-09-20 08:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that attempted kidnapping is normal, and accept it.
Duh.
Actually, you are lying about this whole incident. Your daughters cousin would be your niece. No one says "my daughters cousin" when they can say "my niece."
Nice try, drama queen, but if you are going to try out some creative writing, think it through first.
2006-09-20 01:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by cyphercube 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just be cautious and surround your cousin with family and friends. Be on the lookout and report anything suspicious.
2006-09-20 01:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by dayzed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably be more vigilent the rest of your life but don't let it ruin or dominate your life...
2006-09-20 01:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋