Financial matters? Children?
2006-09-19 18:17:59 · 11 answers · asked by Borchap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way is to have an amicable divorce and to be fair to each other, not making the kids pay for the adult fall out. You may never be "friends" but you can be allies concerning the welfare of the kids.
2006-09-19 18:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce is not a easy process but to help ease it I would suggest that you guys discuss everything together about how you guys want things to go. Try to agree together on things all though difficult at a time like this. Make arrangements fro your children and agree what is best for them remember that they are innocent in all this and they love the both of you. Try your hardest not to argue if you feel that a argument is coming try discussing something else all argueing is going to do is make things more difficult. I wish you the best of luck divorce is never easy.
2006-09-20 01:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by tiggerluvnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as financial matters go.... you pay your half, he pays his half.
Children... both of you put aside what you want and do what is best for the kids. Age plays a big role in this. Also gender of the kids plays a role in this. If you have a young boy, he needs his mom. If you have a pre teen or teenage boy, he needs his dad.
Same with girls, they always need their mom. Anyways, try and figure out what works best so that the other parent can be as involved as possible in their life.
To make it easier..... AGREE on everything before you enter a court room. If you don't it can get messy. Then you have fighting and arguing, kids get involved and feel torn to choose and you don't want that.
2006-09-20 01:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by ktjokt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a very good lawyer who can get what you need financially. You are entitled to a certain amount and make sure you get that amount. As far as the children, I am going thru this myself and it's not easy no matter what. It is painful but they will get thru it and try to maintain and good relationship with your ex for the kids. We went to counselling to learn how to co-parent the children in a way that was good for them even though we were no longer married. Time makes a huge difference. spend alot of time with the children and allow them to talk about their feelings. Let their school counselors know what is going on so they can look for any signs that the kids are not coping well. I let my kids's teachers know so they could inform me if my child seemed to not be doing well. We spend alot of evenings having fun and just goofing off together to make it a fun home to live in. Good luck! Also alot of reassurance that its not their fault and that you both still love them and will be there for them.
2006-09-20 01:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a lot less expensive if you don't run up huge legal fees fighting each other, money that would be better spent on the children.
if you can't face each other and talk calmly...how about each writing out two lists
what you want to keep, and what you are prepared to give the other.
then you exchange lists.
you both should include how and where you want the children to live, and what you think is reasonable access/visitation and support payments.
the idea is to be calm and think about what would be fair for each parent and best for the children.
it's negotiation. the court will make you do it anyway, or impose it's own judgement.
2006-09-20 01:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to get along. Most states are 50/50. If the wife gets the kids , He has to pay her to help raise the kids. It is based on his income. Child support. If you have money in the bank it should be split .If you have a car it's yours, if he has a truck it's his. If there are payment for them each one shall make there own.. Most likely the house go's to whom ever has the kids.., but can split the money if sold. you just have to work things out and have your lawyer put it in the divorce papers. .Best to get along for the sake of the kids. Good Luck Pem
2006-09-20 01:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only through mutual agreement , if relationship has become so sour that two persons can not live together , its better they sit together atleast once for the sake of their children , decide the future course of them , should keep the children in joint custody but at the same time the person who is having responsibility of children be suitably rewarded with financial help and security
2006-09-20 01:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by parinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is hell my ex and I got along fine until time to go to court I dont know that there is an easier process unless you just give them everything. Sorry I think youre outta luck but I wish you well
2006-09-20 01:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by mariahp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the financial matters should be handled as a business. and so should the children [if] mom and dad does [not] get along. hopefully you do get along and you can be as my ex and i are to this day to the point where birthdays and holidays are still shared together as a family with our current mates included. my children are all grown and away from home and we still all celebrate [together.]
2006-09-20 01:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not getting a divorce
2006-09-20 01:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by marrissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋