My husband filed for a divorce a few months ago. I still want to be with him. He still tries to have sex everytime I see him. When I don't he makes me feel guilty and says that I don't want to be with him and that I don't enjoy sex with him. He also tells me "to go after what I want" which I guess means him since he knows I love him. Should I still be sleeping with him?????
2006-09-19 18:06:17 · 45 answers · asked by golden2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LISTEN... HE WANTED THE DIVORCE SO NO YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM.... HE IS PLAYING YOU....HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT AS HARD AS IT MAYBE....I KNOW YOU STILL LOVE HIM BUT IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO LOVE YOUR SELF...KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT AND TELL HIM TO TAKE A WALK...YOU DESERVE BETTER....THERE IS BETTER OUT THERE...SOME ONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU THE RESPECT YOU DESERVE....HANG IN THERE....
2006-09-19 18:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
filing for divorce means ending the marriage. Therefore no more sex. Tell him to kiss your ***! If you honestly want things to work out then take it slow start over, fix what ever was wrong enough for him to file and then worry about sex. That would be the very last thing on my mind. Good luck honey!
2006-09-19 18:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by day 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused, and we are confused you are in big trouble. I don't see any consistency to these answers yet.
Hormones. It's a problem. In all decisions there is a biological response. There is a choice. And, most important...there is a duty or responsibility. (There's also the time it takes to make the decision, but we won't go there.)
The responsibility is to yourself. This can be difficult if you've never done this. It is not all about helping others. It is helping yourself to be the adult that can and will take care of others.
Yeah, hormones...been there. Highly illogical Dr. Spock. Beam us up. Good luck. Best advise - go stay at a relatives house you've never seen in a long time and tell them you're not taking any calls until it's over.
2006-09-19 18:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In the sense he is using you as a convenient sex partner.
Going after what you want" sounds more like his own selfish motto right now. I don't think he means him.
It feels like your love for him is skewing your vision of what he is up to. Since he has filed for divorce, he has no more marital rights. Nor should he be receiving them.
Sex is not a lasso to keep him or a lollipop to bribe him.
You wouldn't sleep with a man who wanted you for just sex - why let your husband be that man?
2006-09-19 18:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He filed for divorce because he no longer cared to save the marriage, and work things out. No, you should not be sleeping with him. He's getting his cake, and eating it too. What I mean by this is, he's a free man and yet still can sleep with you. Sounds to me that's all he wants from you is sex. You should start charging him.
2006-09-19 18:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If he filed for the divorce, then he wants the divorce. I think he is using you until something "better" comes along. He will never know what he is missing if it is there whenever he wants it to be. He knows that you want him back so he is using whatever words he can to get you to agree. Easier said than done but go find someone/something else. Maybe then he'll realize what he's missing.
2006-09-19 18:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is still going through with the divorce but still thinks he can have sex with you, I would hold out and see if he is there for love or sex! If he loves you he will understand!
2006-09-19 18:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by teddiflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP having sex with him. HE FILED!!! Let him live with the consequences. He is scamming on you, why is the divorce happening? DOn't let him manipulate you or you'll just be used more after the divorce while he shops the market at the expense of your dignity and self esteem. I encourage you to stop having sex with him and find a new outlet for your energy....yoga? You can do it!
2006-09-19 18:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by BOISE_DD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did he filed a divorce? You two seem to love each other. Sleep with him, that divorce might not ever go through.
2006-09-19 18:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on girl you know that answer! "NO" what are you thinking? if he has filed for divorce that should tell you onething and one thing only ---- he wants a new life. Icould only guess it has to be hard to say no to sex when you know him and all . But, come on chick "you" will be the one who hurts in the long run. We are just made that way i truly think us being wemen can't have just sex and not let our harts come in to the picture maybe some can hind it but not for long.
2006-09-19 18:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cissey V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine a summons for divorce serving double duty as an aphrodisiac! Will wonder ever cease? Or will you ever stop being so damned dumb as to let this man walk all over you and sleep with you too? He's probably not hot, but it's certain you're not! WAKE UP LOSER!
You couldn't possibly love this jerk. You don't even love yourself.
2006-09-19 18:15:37 · answer #11 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋