Our relationship was going well for the first year and half and we even made it through his first year @ college while i was a sr in hs. Now we both have been in college for about 2-3 years and over the summers he treats me wonderfully but when we come back to school, he treats me 100% different. I live with some of my girlfriends and he lives w/ som of his guy friends and we never see one another half the time. once back @ school he never makes time for me. He would rather spend his time watching FB or playing video games but then when does have time i don't, i have work to do. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up in a week and he didn't take me out for it last year and now he isnt sure he will this year. He suggests we go out on the day of it which doesn't work out for me because I have class @ night and a test the next day so i need to study. I suggest we go out the weekend before or after but he says no he wants to hang w/ the guys. WHY IS HE BEING THIS WAY???
2006-09-19 17:52:08 · 17 answers · asked by BabyBlues 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WE GO TO THE SAME COLLEGE AND HE IS NOT CHEATING ON ME....i know that for sure...i know he loves me but he just doesn't show it!
2006-09-19 18:22:45 · update #1
School is a time were people find their self Identity. Its hard to date during the whole process of College, congrats so far. I know how he feels, because I'm a guy, when football is on I want to watch it, when my boys go out I want to go too. With that being a special occasion like an anniversary should not be overlooked. Just make a deal w/ him & let him know he can chill and do his own thing but that day is very important to you, and promiss him space afterwards.
He is a guy, Im sure he still adores you other wise you guys would most deff be appart when In school; because that takes a comentment
2006-09-19 18:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by BJtheGreat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - he's still a little boy at heart - a warning of what he try to be as a man. He wants all his toys. during the summer, you're the most available one. During the school year, he's passing on the real message. The anniversary thing is the dumbest, cruelist, selfishest bit I've read in some time.
Sister, you may think the world of him; he isn't thinking of you, just himself.
He is not even trying to keep you. Imagine what it would be like if he knew he had you ringed up! Send him back to the playpen.
2006-09-20 00:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read up on "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" and you'll understand the diverse difference between the two opposing creation.
This is your BF's stage of exploration - highly impacted and influenced by his dorm mates - understandably - given that he loves you and that hes not cheating - but the pressure is severe with fellow testosteronic drives for sports activities and clumsy things most guys do.
Focus on what you need to accomplish. Whatever happens - your BF will realize how much a diamond he's taking for granted for - in time, you'll realize what you need to do - and you won't feel the pain as much.
2006-09-20 02:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by calofficer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk...maybe hes just being a guy and he still loves you...take it from me...im a guy...sometimes id rather hang out with the guys and kick back and relax instead of being with my girl...but then im with her all week...so idk...the love could have just died out...cus guys are like that...we are jackasses...lol...well...not me...im as polite as can be and personally am against cheating in any form...but there could be another woman. What you need to do is sit down and have a talk with him and make him answer you honestly...because any girl should be treated with love...and not ignored... im sorry to say it but you could be a summer thing to...and then he could go to another girl in the fall and spring that is local to him...i dont wanna put words in his mouth or anything...im just naming some possibilites, and thats all i can come up with...i hope that made sense to you and i wish you the best of luck in finding the reason, and i hope that you guys can get str8end out...
2006-09-20 01:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by yourresidentredneck120 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being this way because you are not a priority for him. To be blunt, he's just not that into you. If you were and he was, he'd be making time for you. Now, seriously, get your own life and your own interests and quit worrying so much about what he's doing. Don't date until you are more secure with yourself. You're going to have a very stressful life if you're spending it giving others the ability to make or break your happiness.
2006-09-20 01:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by sodamncute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. He's way too selfish. if you can accept his being with guys on the whole year but not at the anniversary or anything. he wants his life, fine but he gotta balance it for his own friends and you. after all if he's acting this way, how are you two going to spend your lives together?
2006-09-20 00:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is just a guy..I would rather have someone who remembers it's the little things ...they count..he sounds like he's not worth the effort..
2006-09-20 00:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still young, patience is not always a virtue of the young. Boys do not mature as quickly as girls
2006-09-20 01:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go he is being an *** hole it take alot to be in a relationship with someone you hardly ever see get you someone closer to you
2006-09-20 01:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's two different people when he's around you. i had a guy like this... i dumped him. you don't deserve to be treated any different when you're alone with him than when he's with friends. find someone else or stay single, i'd say.
2006-09-20 00:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by jenn w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋