Relationship Wise?

Question

Okay well my boyfriend and I just got these new cell phones on a couples plan and our internet is free, Including our Msn Messenger. Un believable as it may sound its true. So few weeks go by and where having relationship problems. Everytime he ever wants to see my phone I give him the okay anwser there is nothing to hide so as time go on I want to see his phone he tells me no! and everytime I walk up to him to see whats going on with his phone he exits the screen and you can see what is behide the screen when its says are you sure you want to exit I caught him in the text service I asked him who he was texting and he said nobody . And it is so strange it make me feel deep down inside that he is guilty about something becasue he always accuses me of cheating, talking to other guys or talking to my babys dad and I never do I am very honest and open Now I need to know is he up to something Is he talking to other women Help me Im confused I even caugth him on a porn site (no rudness

Answer 1

I think a problem of mistrust was raised when you were first asked to produce your phone and whatever it may hold. What either of you have on your phone should remain your own private business because if not then that raises the question of distrust and insecurity issues involving your relationship. That being said I agree with you that his behavior is suspicious . I would disregard the porn site thing as unimportant and just entertainment so I wouldn't read too much into that . I'm not aware of your relationship with your babies dad but if he sees your child then you will unavoidably have to speak with him on occasion concerning visitation and such . What concerns me really is that he has accused you of cheating , he's asked to see your phone indicating mistrust and insecurity on his part . Perhaps much of his insecurity lies in his own behavior and having something to hide . I've been around the block a few times and have learned that quite often the accuser of cheating is the guilty party and that is a common ploy to divert all the attention on you and put you on the defensive for no other reason then to keep you in the dark about the truth of this relationship . I don't feel from what I have heard that this gentleman is trustworthy and feel in all likely hood he is probably cheating on you . I would maneuver myself into position to kick this one to the curb if I were you before things go from bad to worse. Good luck to you , please excuse me if a bit blunt but I’ve seen this behavior so many times I recognize it easily .

Answer 2

The question isnt really weather hes "talking" to other women. Just like you don't wanna think about him "sleeping" with someone else. Your worried that he's gonna leave you for someone else. Because when you give him all and he gives you nothing you put yourself in a position to get taken.

He might be accusing you just to make himself feel better about whatever it is he is doing...... and he is doing something. He's keeping his phone from you. The fact is that you obviously dont trust this guy and weather or not hes doing shady things behind your back doesnt matter. No trust= NO rust. I dont know what that means but it ryhmes.

I would tell you to leave him but we both know you wont. I think you need a break to be with just friends. I hope you realize you can be without a man for some time.

Answer 3

First and formost, H*ell yeah!! That's the answer to your question. He is definantly up to something. NEVER EVER confront someone who you supect them of doing wrong, catch them in the act. It's not as if you would get an honest answer from the liar! Secondly, when a man accuses you of cheating all the time and you know above all your fidelity status is A+, 99.9 % of the time, the accuser is the culprit. This is a fact in what I call the "playas 101" handbook. If he is willing to lie to you about something so petty as sending text messages, then you should reevaluate the entire relationship. If you truley believe that you have zero tolerance for deciet, CATCH HIM!! When you do hit one of his dumb *ss lines, when he asks "what are you doing?". Always trust your instincts!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

well my bet is hes hiding something but thats not a definate thing, im very private about my phone and internet , but i dont have ANYTHING to hide at all, im not sure why im so private about things, like i wouldnt even want my g/f going through my phones texts even though the opnly people that have texted me are her and a couple of guys i know haha its really a judgment call on ytour part, you have to decide if your gonna just trust him or not. theres always sneakin in and checkin out his phione when hes not lookin haha just be sure your ready to see what you might see and be willing to deal with the fact that hes gonna be mad when you confront him with it if there is something thats needs to be talked about

Answer 6

i think that he is guilty about something or he wouldn't be accusing u of cheating and he would be open and honest about who he was text messenging all of the time. I think u should sit him down and tell him how u feel and ask him to be honest or dump him.

Answer 7

He is using reverse psychology on you. If he acts like he is jealous of who you call, he thinks you will believe he is totally devoted to you. All the while, he is keeping his secrets to himself.

Answer 8

ask him... explain why your upset.(he can check yours but you can't on his)..tell him if he can't be honest with you there is something going on..you have to set some guide lines in any relationship

Answer 9

well there are those ads on tv where u can text a hot girl so maybe thats what he was doing.

Answer 10

Confront him. Sometimes when someone is suspicious of another, it is because they themselves are guilty.