My daughter is so cute and Im not just saying that but she is very insecure. Her self esteem is very low. She has an ex boyfriend that just confuses her and any advice from mom isnt any advice at all if you know what I mean. I need to know how I can reach her. He is trying to come back into her life after dumping her upteen times. Saying he made a mistake and really misses her. The only time he does this is when she starts liking someone else. Please he has a hold on her how do I make her see him for what he is?
2006-09-19 17:44:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Problem #1...your 13 year old has an ex boyfriend AND he has a HOLD on her AND he has dumped her UMPTEEN times!
I have no idea "what you mean" because my 13 year old is NOT ALLOWED to have a boyfriend! I'm still the parent in my family and I intend to retain that title in my house!
You should assert your authority in order to protect the best interest of your daughter! It doesn't have to be a fight, teenagers can be reasonable too! Set aside the emotions and let rationality take it's place!
2006-09-19 17:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a responsible parent you care oh so very much, Which is great I to am a Mother but only yet a new comer in this world. And I got great advice that might see him for who he is. See when I was your daughters age I felt just the same for a boy in my school and I realized out in the real world that boys are not everything. They only hold you back from what you are trying to get at, boys at that age are immature and just a big waste to even have to try to start a relationship. It only make thing's worse and it will turn her into a sucker when she gets to high school and all will happen is she will just keep getting her heart broken over and over again until she learns the hard way out. And she has a long while yet to go until she will realize this. Just be open and explain to your daughter that she is only 13 and there are plenty of fish in the sea and that perfect boy or guy she has dreamed of will come along do waste it on some cocky boy at school who thinks he has a hold on her and feels he knows she will take him back when ever his side rack is gone . Sorry I got carried away but it happened to me I know the pain and torture...
2006-09-19 18:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in God's name can a caring mother even let a 13 y/o girl have a boyfriend in the first place? She is at least a year or two away from being capable of dealing with these complex relationships.
Her self esteem is low, because she is emotionally unable to even HANDLE the whole boyfriend thing! She is blaming herself because that is what little children DO! Get her into couseling NOW. And make sure the counsellor knows just how foolish YOU have been!
I think you need to ask yourself if YOUR insecurities have pushed your daughter into inappropriate relationships. I suspect they caused you to allow this insane situation to develop in the first place. Maybe family counselling is in order as well.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh and judgemental, I don't like the truth any more than you do. But someone needs to say this.
2006-09-19 17:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by glenbarrington 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i so understand what your daughter is going through at her age i also had a boyfriend who was off and on and because of low self esteem i often felt sad.... i think you might want to get her some counseling... these kind of boyfriends often set a pattern for bad relationship to come... try to get your daughter into sports or what ever she likes take her shopping and have girl days out. do what ever you can to boots her up... and tell her that you don't want her dating that boy if you feel he is bad news then use the parent card and don't let her date tell her she can hang out in group only activity's...i hope you find the answers you need and remember its hard being 13 .....
2006-09-19 17:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by skylerrain99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're exposing her to the world of dating way too young. Make her back off for a few more years so she can grow up and have a better chance of seeing with a broader perspective. Sorry your little girl is hurting. That always makes Mom hurt too!
2006-09-19 17:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to do anything better than telling her your opinion, and then letting her make her own mistakes. Hey, if she really wants to get together with this guy, it's not like you can really stop her.
When he breaks up with her again, she'll remember what you said, and at least she won't feel quite as bad. She'll remember what you said, and realize that the problem is with the boyfriend, not with her.
Aren't kids so much fun?
2006-09-19 17:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no disrespect intended but i have to say this..... this is what happens when girls have b/f's at such an early age..... this stuff that goes on these days just blows my old mind..... what are 13 yr old girls doing worrying about boys at this age ?? I was still playing with dolls for pets sake !!!!!! you need to find out what this boy has over her..... she is at the age to be easily impressed and brain washed by a guy....... MOM needs to sit down and have a real girl to girl talk about the TRUTH of relationships and the conseqense of having them..... what has she got to look forward to now ? if she is already having these problems at this age, what will the future bring ????? sorry to sound harsh, but this type of thing just makes me sad and a little mad...... let them children !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God bless
2006-09-19 17:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 13 and she has an ex already? Wow! She is just a baby!!!, After all her cuteness is not all lady, is what she brings out from withing, I don't think you reach her, she is growing up too fast.
2006-09-19 17:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her you are the mummy, sit her down and explain to her that she deserves better. and why would u let this boy see her, if i was a mom and someone did that to my kid, i would kick his @ss if he comes near my daughter bcoz he is just bringing her self-esteem down and you as her mother should bring it back up by letting her know that she is beautiful and deserves better,
oh and by the way mom, she is too young to be dating, i don't think u want her pregnant at 13, geez get some sense.
2006-09-19 17:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by lilykiss8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Big hang ups for a 13 year old. What you need is for her friends to tell her he is no good. At that age she will listen to them before anyone else.
2006-09-19 17:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋