has been constantly over our house alot and every where we go he's there. It's like my husband has to divide his time between us and I don't like it. Am I overreacting about this?
2006-09-19 17:38:18 · 22 answers · asked by prettymama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No you aren't over reacting. Just talk to your husband and find out why this friend needs to be at your place so much, then tell your husband you want his time there curtailed or stopped altogether. Stand your ground. There may be a lot of reasons for this guy to want to be there. He could just be lonely, and needs the company. He may be possessive of your husband and wants to dominate his time if he resents you, or he may even have an interest in you. You won't know until you ask.
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2006-09-19 17:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
in case you and your husband are at the same time pleased with your sex life, then do not hardship about what you 'ought to' be feeling. count number your blesings that you've an spectacular frindship and bond. in case your husband needs more beneficial sex and also you do not have the favor, then there would nicely be issues. if so, i'd first get a checkup from a doctor and make confident you're healthful. Then i'd come across a counselor and paintings on the questions of attaining a compromise or learning in case your low libido is the authentic results of another concern. sex should be an significant portion of an complete courting.
2016-10-16 01:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell if you're overreacting just because you say you 'don't like it'. What do you do to express yourself about it to your husband? Do you behave differently around the friend? It sounds like you probably have a valid point to bring it up with your husband when you are lucky enough to be alone with him. Try to make sure you don't sound like you're overreacting when you talk about it, rather that you are concerned about your lack of time together and what it means for both of you. Your husband could be just waiting for you to say something constructive so he has something to base his conversation with the Friend upon. Maybe the guy is in a really bad space right now and just needs you'alls patient company? Or maybe he is lonely and needs to find a mate and thinks that hanging out with a couple, as opposed to a group of trolling guys, will increase his chances? What ever it is it doesn't have to be permanent so keep on not 'overreacting' and find a common ground with your husband on this so that whatever is done it is a family decision. good luck :)
2006-09-19 17:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by island girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not over reacting about this at all. Your husband's friend needs to back off some. Its not normal for this person to be spending so much time with your husband........He needs to realize that as a married couple you both need time alone with each other. That he doesnt need to be around your husband every day, every hour or every minute.......that he needs to give you both space.
Every married couple needs time alone.........that is some of the most precious time you have with your spouse......and to have to put up with this friend of your husband's all the time just isnt fair to you......I can imagine you are craving your husband's full attention and getting tired of him having to divide the time between you and his friend.
I think you need to talk to you husband and let him know how you are feeling and let him know you would like for him to talk to his friend and ask him to give you both some space. Make nights just for you and your husband..... take the phone off the hook, tell your husband to tell his friend that those nights are just for you and him and dont be coming over or trying to call. If he is a real friend he will respect your husbands and your wishes.
Good luck to you and your husband in this situation.
2006-09-19 18:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a guy so having your friends around is cool. I have been married for 8 years, and I see my friends at least twice a week. You should be a little concerned why he is spending so much time with his friends. Find out what they are doing, so maybe you can do the same things with your husband. I like sports alot but my wife doesn't. So I play board games (ex. Monopoly) with her, while I watch sports.
2006-09-19 17:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by sponge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Me and Dupree hey?
You're probably not overreacting, but then again, there isn't much you can do about it. Your husband is entitled to spend time with his mates. Don't you have someone you could go and hang out with, when this friend is over?
If it really is constant, then maybe you could say something casual to your husband. Just ask him 'what's up with (insert name here), why are we seeing so much of his smiling face lately?' There may be something going on behind the scenes you don't know about, that's all.
2006-09-19 17:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to express your feeling to your husband, tell him how you feel. Your not over-reacting, but its not the friend fault this situation is on your husband, He has no reason dividing time between the both of you. Your his wife you come first. Maybe , its time to come out of that content mode, and start opening your eyes to what you really see in front of you.
2006-09-19 20:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by DEBORAH M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman,as a wife, you need to stand up for your marriage.Talk with your husband and tell him, that man can not stay 24 hours in your house.Tell your husband,both need to have a privacy time.His friend can visit you and your husband but not everyday.Ask your husband: your friend has nothing to do? He has house and family,he must be there.Ask your husband: why is the reason your friend is coming everyday? Tell your husband: if you do not say nothing to your friend,I will do.See what your husband is going to tell you.Ask your husband: what is more important to you,your friend or your wife;your friend or your family.Good luck. Really your husband does not have a good excuse;because you are more important than his friend.
2006-09-19 17:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel..i would first ask him why his friend has been hanging around so much! maybe his friend is having a hard time so before you get to mad just ask your husband... if nothings wrong then tell your hubby that you realy wish that his friend would not all ways come over and that you feel he is taking time away from the two of you. but remember your hubby needs his friends just like you need your friends so maybe you to could pick a day or night that you hang out with your friends and do things...
2006-09-19 17:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by skylerrain99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it has happened with my husband and his brothers too. Just sit down and talk calmly and rationally with him about it. Let him know that you think it's great that he has such a good friend, but the two of you are supposed to be "best" friends and that you would like a little time for just the two of you ( other than when you are snoring and checking for holes in your eyelids) What my husband and I do, especially during football season ( because of good ol' madden nfl games) is chose one night for us, one night for the boys to play games and then Sunday is family time. This way everyone gets their time to hang out, and no one feels like they are being put on the back burner.
2006-09-19 17:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋