my girlfriend and I have been together over a year, i love her very much and tell her and show her this often, she affirms her love for me as often. just in the last month there have been some huge changes, a move, new careers, new abode. she got a new job she really loves and i am so very happy for her. and since the move it seems like our sex has tapered off from 5 times a week
to 1 or 2 times a week. i have tried to adjust myself to this and not bother her each time i go to bed sexually frustrated, and after a couple of less than overt snubs from her ive been finding myself upset and unable to sleep. I know that each relationship has its seasons and to expect sex each night is unreasonable, maybe im thinking about it too much. IDK there arent any indications that i need to be worried. should i be concerned?
2006-09-19 17:36:33 · 6 answers · asked by anthon02robe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldn't worry that much about it . It sounds to me that it's probably all the new changes. I'm sure she loves you as much as she did in the beginning if not more.As soon as everything has calmed down your sex life should be back to normal.It's probably all the stress from the move and the new job.It takes some people longer to adjust to change. Give her some time.
2006-09-19 17:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the real question is does she understand that this is a problem for both of you or just you.
sure stress and lack of proper rest can and will change a person's sex drive. some people hold the partnership in higher regards and will try to help find a solution. some will just give the other that tough crap line knowing that the partner is unsatisfied.
if your girlfriend is so involved with her own situation that she cannot see how it effects you then i wonder if there is any love or if the romance is gone and she could give a crap.
is this a partnership of convenience? you were a good enough partner as long as she had nothing better to do? is it possible that the fire has died in her and really does not care. actions speak louder than words.
2006-09-23 01:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by Vivian Vixen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me a lot of people consider 1or 2 times a week a lot of sex.
If there aren't any indications then why worry, and bring concern where none is needed.
Give yourselves time to adjust you may just have a higher libido then her. LOL
2006-09-20 00:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is tired, needs a break. 1 or 2 times per week sounds fine to me - go for quality not quantity. She may be just as worried about this is you - no one wants to think they have lost the urge for sex.It in no way means she finds you less attractive or loves you less.
2006-09-20 00:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your fine, she's just starting to adjust to her new job so just relax and give it some time and if you still end up sexually frustrated try taking a bit more showers lol
2006-09-20 00:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by kim_banning84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with neptune, certain people tend to have a lower sex drive when their busy. My hubby considers 2-3 times of sex a week adequate but not for me. I had a hard time trying to control my sex drive to suit his and still is.
2006-09-20 00:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Raven Hood® 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋