2006-09-19 17:30:49 · 14 answers · asked by dulla mae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In an area like this there is no substitute for communication. Don't let yourself get so mad at him because "he's not taking care of you" that you consider breaking up. If you're afraid to come right out and talk to him about it then show him what you would like the next time you are making love. Most men really want to please their women and will do anything to accomplish that. It's part of their male pride so don't think that he doesn't care. Give him a chance to correct his behavior by showing him or telling him what you want.
2006-09-19 17:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront and honest but try not to be too big of a bubble burster instead give him a few pointers like while you two are busy suggest thing like i like it when you do this or try doing that etc. it'll catch on and soon he will figure out what does it for you and what does'nt. And if all else fails buy some toys and once he sees those he will surely get the hint lol good luck
2006-09-20 01:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by kim_banning84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what type of guy he is and what your problem is:
Average Joe that cares: just come out and tell him what makes you tick. However, I doubt he is one of these, otherwise you would have done so. Don't phrase it like "you don't do it for me" but like "Here is what really turns me on. Can you try this for me?" If he says no, then there's a problem. If he says yes and is willing to try, then give him a lot of good feedback regardless of outcome just to keep him feeling good. Then that activity will become part of your established sex play, and you can add what youl like to it over time.
Macho man: prior to doing something that he likes, say that you will do something that he likes first, then you get agreement that he will reciprocate and do something that you like. Assuming you can communicate during sex to let him know "that is good" or "that doesn't quite get it" he should be able to switch his strategies. Afterwards, praise like "nobody ever made me feel like you do" should provide positive reinforcement.
Other problems might be your own mental state - do you get aroused by him or no longer love him? Or maybe stress at your work makes it hard for you to get in the mood. Hard to say because your question is not so specific. Is it painful? Is sex OK but no orgasm? Romantic issues? Or is he just a know-it-all who thinks he is God's gift to women and doesn't really care if you orgasm or not? Premature ejaculation? Tough to give help without knowing the exact problem. Be more specific than "Doesn't do it for me."
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2006-09-20 00:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Wheatman007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by not saying anything your letting him think that all is well.
You are deceiving him and yourself, if you really love him you can figure out a way of leading the conversation without hurting his ego, of things you want to try together, you never know maybe he is being polite too and lets you think your the greatest and he doesn't really think it. People rarely say what they really feel, be honest for goodness sake or you will be miserable.
If he really cares about you he should know when you are not fully satisfied and so on. It is a very personal thing.
2006-09-20 00:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't come right out and tell him. Why don't you try subtle hints............... tell him what you want him to do......... like.......... "why don't you try......." or " it would really turn me on if you......." or "it drives me crazy the way you........" The sexual side of a relationship is all about being free with your partner and not having inhibitions. If you just come out and tell him he sucks in bed, it may cause more hurt than good. Experiment together, it will spice things up and who knows........ you may even learn a new trick or too as well.
2006-09-20 00:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Melinda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt just go out and tell him instead say "honey you know when you do that why dont you try it this way" help them to help you. Show them what you like instead of just leading them on. Dont just tell them they suck b/c then they will feel very low. Try coming across it a different way.
2006-09-20 00:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by IaMClueLeSS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you guys need to talk to each other,
You have to speak the truth to one another, it is the most important thing in a good relationship.
Every thing will work out, it always does..
Good Luck
2006-09-20 00:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by girlscanfishtoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD BE AS HONEST, AS I COULD BE WITH HIM, AND MAYBE. IF YOU BE HONEST WITH HIM, HE WOULD KNOW ,,AND MAYBE YOU TWO .CAN THINK OF OTHERS WAYS ,TO HAVE RELATIONS. OR MAYBE HE MAY BE WILLING. TO GET SOME SEX STIMULATOR'S, OR THEY MAY BE SOME OILS OR EXOTIC THINGS, YOU MAY PURCHASE. OR SEXY PAJAMAS. OR DIFF RENT POSITIONS YOU MAY TRY. BUT I WOULD TELL HIM. BECAUSE I'M QUITE SURE YOU WOULDN'T,WANT NO-ONE TO LEAD, YOU ON . WOULD YOU .SOMETIMES, THESE ARE THINGS THAT MAKE MAN ANGRY, WHEN YOU PLAY GAMES. YOU ARE TWO RESPONSIBLE ADULTS, YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO COMMUCIATE. NOT PLAY GAMES . GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-20 00:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by nisey 168 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, but give him advice on how to make it better. If he can't take it then he has an ego problem.
2006-09-20 00:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by brendalyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be open and honest with your mate then who can you be open and honest with
2006-09-20 00:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋