yesterday, i was in my office, and going homw for lunch break for an hour, my colleague asked me to get some sweets for her, from home as her mouth was tasting bad. I said ok, and came back after an hour with sweets, gave them to her. she tasted them and kept aside. in the mean time i asked whether she liked the sweets or not. but in the evening, when we were about to leave, she asked me "shall i give this to Jitender(our office boy)" i was a bit disturbed and just nodded my head. She asked me to give, I said you go ahead. That's all.. I wsa very much hurt with her behavior, i felt very bad of this. tell me how should I behave with such a kind of lady. I am a hyderabadi, she is a delhite.
2006-09-19 17:03:24 · 12 answers · asked by MADDY 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Please try to ignore this lady in future. Don't have to let her know that you didn't like her behaviour, its best just to forget abt the whole episode as the more you think abt it, the more disturbed you will be.Let not some one else's bad behaviour or action ruin ur good time.
Have a nice Day.
2006-09-19 17:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pushapinder S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My dear, an office is a place where you will get an opportunity to meet all sorts of people. You should not place much expectations of any kind of reaction from anyone.
Do you know why some sweets are a speciality of some states and not of others! Precisely due to this reason as each culture has a different set of preferences.
You should have asked her what sort of sweets are you looking for! Next time make sure that if she or someone else makes such a request, sweetly ask them if they would like to accompany you as you don't really understand their taste or preferences, I am sure they will stop asking you to do their delivery boy jobs!
2006-09-20 00:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by indiangal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Maddy,
U r working - means u r grown up and u r matured enough, dont try to take every thing to heart and mess up things.
The north indian people eat lot of sweets when compared to Hyderabadis, so she might have not liked the taste.
But she was a bit arrogant, asking ur permission to give them to your office boy. She would have done it secretly.
But dont take it to heart, and dont try to act indifferent to this lady from now.
In future if she asks for some sweets, tell her its not possible and tell her that probably she may not love the south indian taste as it is different from theirs.
And dont keep on pushing this news to ur other colleagues, there will be few BBC correspondans in every office, beware of them.
Any ways, leave this and be happy buddy
Good day
Cheers,
Rufus
Hyderabad
2006-09-20 03:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rufus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, delhite's can be really gutsy sometimes. But, u musn't mind it. If u can just tell her it was mean of her to do that and laugh it out .
But if u think that won't work then here's what u must do-
Talk to her nicely, don't be rude(please do this) . When u r in conversations with her try to get the point that u were hurt in every topic. Make her feel guilty. If u get bad evn for a sec , it won't work. Patience is the key.
But still if it doesn't work, then she has a big problem. Tell her about her problem rite on her face. Whatevr she feels is her thing.But I least recommend this as u may feel guilty later or she may just not care. Give the first idea atleast a week to work out.
For confidence and to get in the rite mood ,go watch LAGE RAHO MUNNABHAI !
2006-09-20 00:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by inder s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For persons considering themselves to be too much advance such things are quite normal, so there is no need to get disturbed.It might be possible that due to your nature you must have brought much more quantity than was required,may be she did not like the thing you brought.anyway just try to avoid such situations in future by saying a simple no,no i do not have why do not you send somebody to bring the same from the market.
2006-09-20 00:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by suchsi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel hurt. If she didn't like them or didn't want them and hid it from you, that would be different. Although she could have just taken them home and if she didn't want them you wouldn't know.
It just sounds like she wasn't thinking.
Don't take it personally. If she asks you to do this again, kindly ask what kinds she likes and if she did not like the last ones you got her.
2006-09-20 00:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U dont worry da. may be she didnt like the taste. but her doing is exactly wrong.. Dont care those.. Give me them i love sweets..
In this world human beings are forgettin the word care and love..
All money hungry animals..
2006-09-20 01:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by visakagn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother.If somebody is as rudeas she is it is just not your fault.If she did not like the sweets she should have given them to the peon but certainly not in your presence.
Dont worry.Stay happy.
This is how thw people are.
2006-09-20 01:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by sweety 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm treat her with respect because God is watching you. Don't take it personally because it'll hurt your health well your feelings even more. Ignore her and try to forget how she behaved towards you because the more you try to forget, the better because you'll start feeling better. I know it's hard but there's nothing wrong in trying.
2006-09-20 01:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by haseen_gudiya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand ur feelings, but i feel u take d office boy as a very low man...perhaps she had eaten her fill, and decided 2 donate some 2 d poor boy...don't judge her harshly, she may mean no harm...
2006-09-20 04:18:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋