If you were in a relationship with the father who has been there the whole time with you and the children. How would you handle the situation? The children are 3, 2, and 9 months. Very smart, beautiful children.
2006-09-19 17:01:22 · 20 answers · asked by LaJoya S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Never, even when I'm just earning enough for food and rent. That is not what God's wants us to do. I will be thankful instead of thinking that way, because that is one of God's best blessings to every Family. I know that it will be really tough on your part because you just had a baby recently. God' knows best for each and everyone of us. Smile and life is full of surprises. You might feel worry now but you will get over it later.
2006-09-19 17:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Bunny2x 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to carry a health baby to term, certainly the best decision would be to continue with the pregnancy and adopt the baby out to a good family whom wants/needs a child to love.(consider open adoption) Emotionally, though, this choice would be difficult and somewhat self-sacrificing; however, this would leave you with some positive emotion where as choosing abortion may leave you with feelings of guilt, loss, anger, resentment, etc. These would be considered if you feel that financially and emotionally taking on the demands of a newborn would be too great. Consider how the new baby would impact your family as a whole, you as a mother, your marriage, and what would be left to give to the other three children. With good family support and perhaps networking between family and a church, many things are possible. You are young, but you have your entire life ahead of you. In making this decision, first and foremost you MUST consider how either decision would affect YOUR life.(physically, emotionally, and financially) Remember that you are the most important because as these children's mother, if you have nothing within yourself, you will have nothing to give to them, and what a shame that would be. Take your time. Reflect. Listen to yourself spiritually. You will know what is right for you. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-09-19 17:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi V/Pittsburgh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The better question to ask if why do you keep getting pregnant? I hope you seek some advise perhaps from Planned Parenthood to help you. As far the pregnancy, there is a good chance that twenty years from now you will think about that little baby you aborted and you might be irreversably sad and depressed and guilty. You mentioned you have three very smart, beautiful children. You will give them another sibling. And, then be very cautious about preventing pregnancy. Lots of love and best wishes.
2006-09-19 17:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 you should be smart enough by now to understand birth control. How could you even think about an abortion? If it's that bad have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are a lot of wonderful people that can't have kids. Then get your tubes tied.
2006-09-19 17:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are only 23 and you already have three children you should have long ago figured out what causes it. Geez what the hell is up with people. I am 35 and as soon as I had my twins I had my tubes tied. I knew that my 2 boys were all we needed and what we could easily afford. When will people realize it is a helluva lot cheaper to get birth control than it is to keep having to take care of the unplanned babies???
2006-09-19 17:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Wiccan Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion--NO!! I have two boys...9 1/2 yrs apart....My kids have different fathers....and they both wanted me to have an abortion.... Both pregnancies were much a surprise...b/c I was young with the first, 19, even tho I was married each time...but I raised them by myself...As hard as it was to know if they wanted me to have an abortion, I would more than likely end up raising them myself...and knowing how hard it was going to be on me...I still would not consider abortion...I know it is going to be hard...with the choices you have before you...Support from family and friends...counseling... regardless of the choice you make, keep some kind of support system available...Keep the Faith... Best Wishes....
~PEACE~
2006-09-19 18:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and I have 3 kids (ages 4,2, and 2 months) and if I got pregnant I wouldn't dream of getting an abortion. If you don't want anymore kids stop doing what it takes to get one. I'm not trying to be ugly but that is like taking someones life.
2006-09-19 17:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by Briget B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i wouldn't,,u should of thought about that way ahead,,,u will never forgive urself,,my god daughter just had 1 and got pergnant again and got abortion and bleeded 33 days and now she's unable to have anymore kids,,she had complications,,,not only she's killed her baby ,,now she can't have anymore kids,,,no way,,, noway,,,,,,i c that u had urs back to back so did i,,, i had 6 kids and a abortions and regret it so bad ,,, my doctor didn't think i would go full term because i had just had twins and i had so much trouble,,,but anyways i regret it so bad,,,,just try this don't listen 2 none of our answers ,,,get on ur knees and pray tonight and ask god 2 put on ur heart what 2 do,,tell god to please give u some kind of sign and i promise u with in 2 days u will get a sign,,,pray both days and watch and c,,,,if u can,, get back in touch with me ok
2006-09-19 17:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, do not have an abortion. the child that you are ( or would ) be carrying did not ask for you to lay down with a man and create them. if you are going to have unprotected sex then be ready to have another child and be woman enough to take of it. if you don't want it then put it up for adoption. there are consequences to every action and that would be yours. if you don't want anymore kids then you need to go get fixed.
2006-09-19 17:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 3 at that age, would have had 4 but lost the first one..... I had my sons , 3 in 3 years, close in age..... my oldest is exactly 3 yrs older than youngest...... NO i would not get rid of the 4th...... I wanted 5..... but we decided 3 was enough, scared we would have had all boys !!! rofl, I got my girl now tho, granddaughter, and she is the apple of our eyes and hearts.... I waited my whole life for her !!!!!!! PS. if no more are wanted let him go and get fixed !!!! easy and simple.... takes only about 10 mins of his time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!God bless
2006-09-19 17:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋