I don't really know why people like to have babies. Can someone tell me because I dont have that feeling in side, of any intrest at all for them. I dont say oh how cute they are and how great it would be to have a child. I dont understand why? Whats that urge that you that makes you want one?
My Fiance said thathe wants kids and I do too but I dont have thta love for it yet or any care at all when I see a baby I dont have feeling for it..
2006-09-19 17:01:21 · 19 answers · asked by Akira Rene 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Have you ever been around a child since birth? I have. Before I'd been around my niece I was absolutely repulsed by the idea of having children: nine months of misery, six hours of agony, and 20+ years of stress and servitude. But now that I've been able to see my niece grow up, and experience the unadulterated love and innocence she exudes I can't help but think I'd like to have my own child.
2006-09-19 17:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by jedi_junkie05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are truely deeply in love so much & your ready to want that love to grow - A baby is the deepest/ purest symbol of that LOVE - A baby is the mirror image of you & your significant other or Soulmate inside & out and with a few of their own personal attributes -LOL
Anyway I cant even describe the love I feel from my daughter - -Yes I love my Fiance' dearly but it doesn't even compare to Love of our child - Its beyond Unconditional - its the most pure form of love I've ever experienced - I experienced it when I was a child I'm sure but being on the Parent side of things this time is just AMAZING it takes my breathe away at all of the Wonder and Beauty her life has brought about
Having a child has impacted my life in the most Beautiful, amazing and extroidinary ways - I find myself not taking anything for granted & I can truely say I appreciate life and its all because of this tiny little beautiful babygirl person I am elated to call my daughter
Does that help answer your Question
Your not gonna feel like that toward other peoples babies - only your own -until you have your own -you wont be able to really phathom it
2006-09-20 04:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Photogra-mama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe we are just missing that gene??
No, seriously, I have been asking myself the same question. I still don't have this "maternity feeling" yet and have no idea if I'll have it one day.
I don't think everyone need to have a baby. It has a lot to do with cultural and familiar background too... besides, we can always do a huge difference in other peoples life, it doesn't have to be a baby. From volunteering to helping orphans and elderly, there is a lot to be done with other people. I still consider adopting an older child. I know some great people that did it and it's amazing how much love we can give to someone else... Just an idea...
2006-09-20 00:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by pinkish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about feeling that way! I was married for 6 years and did everything I needed to in order to prevent pregnancy, never feeling like I was ready. A while after I split from my husband I ended up getting serious with someone else. I got pregnant soon after he and I got together, and from the moment I found out about the baby, it was the greatest thing ever.
I think it's just situational. If you never decide that you want to have kids, that's fine because there will always be children around that you can bond with. Someday you might change your mind about wanting kids, completely out of the blue. Either way, it's okay.
2006-09-20 02:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by shopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babies scared me, frankly, til I had my own!
I'm not sure if not feeling all warm&fuzzy about little bitty ones is a sign you won't ever want one, or even that you don't want to have kids.
Men, especially, I find, will like kids but not know what to do about babies, don't find their ittybitty bits with all the orifices leaking and needing filling all that appealing!
But if older children turn you off a lot, I think that's a better sign that maybe having kids wouldn't be a great life activity for you.
When I was young I didn't find them so appealing, now I love them! I'm not put off by their vulnerability, I adore it.
I like interacting with babies because they are free of all the crap that comes with socialization. And though it can feel like an exercise in self-sacrifice for just long enough that you wonder if it will ever end, I feel so happy to have had them to care for. They are bundles of sweet need--they need your love, and your warmth and your understanding and your time and your patience and what you get in return is this feeling of ushering a fellow human into the world. It feels like a sacred duty and a wonderful deep connection and surprisingly a journey of self-discovery too.
But, that said, if you never feel the desire then better to not take that trip!
2006-09-20 00:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are normal. I have two children now, but before I had them, I felt exactly the same way. I, too, wondered what all the fuss was about. Yeah, so what? It's a baby, big deal. You see one you see them all. But all of that changed when I had my first one. As soon as you see that little bundle nothing will ever be the same again. Now, I am one of those women that oohs and ahhs over someone else's baby. And to be perfectly honest with you, I had children because my husband wanted children. I was perfectly happy with the notion of going through life without any kids. But now I would never give them up for anything, it's the best thing that I did.
2006-09-23 13:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by jeffypuff 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say you want children just because your fiance' does. That will end your marriage with the first pregnancy. If you don't want to have children don't have them. Those who want to have children see a hope for the future in them. They see their bloodline/ancestory/heritage moving towards the future. But if you do not want to have a child do not get married to a man thinking that you do. That is marrying under false pretenses and basically you are lieing when you make your vows. I suggest you discuss this with your fiance. He has a right to be with a woman who wants children and you have a right to be with someone who doesn't. I can see no happiness in a marrige between the two of you right now.
2006-09-20 00:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its the natural part of life. You will like it one day.
By the way tell you some jokes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Last of all just want to tell you that whatever you do, just don't give up. Also you must love and care for the people around you. In that way they will also show you the love that you show to them. Just be yourself and happy everyday. Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-09-20 00:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people want to have a baby because they love their spouse so much they want to create somethign together. Many people have dreamed of becoming a parent since a very young age. Some want a child to take care of them, or they want a reflection of themselves. Plus, kids can be stinking cute.
Let me add that it is totally okay to not want kids, they aren't for everyone. That doesn't mean that you can't be a wonderful aunt to a special child that you don't have to take home.
2006-09-20 00:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rose C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before I had kids I did not like children at all. I thought they were gross sticky little mess makers. I wanted nothing to do with them. I could never understand what people liked about babies they looked like malformed mini people with giant heads to me. But then the minute I had my first I loved her so much she was the most beautiful thing ever and now I get all mushy over babies. But having kids definitely isn't for everyone if you don't want them don't have them.
2006-09-20 01:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋