When i told him at first he ran off, god knows where, for 2 weeks. Then he called and apoligized and said it wouldnt happen again, he just got scared. Now he is telling me that he dont know what he wants, and regardless of what he wants i am going into my 3rd month of pregnancy. I need some advise, im so scared right now.
2006-09-19 16:55:23 · 36 answers · asked by thinjupiter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Majority of the time it happens like this. If he can't be a man and take responsibility then forget him. But for him to except the fact that he is having a baby you should tell him that you want to take a paternity test. By you doing this it will let him know that you have been faithfull to him and only him and he can't come to you saying that it is not his. If he still don't want nothing to do with the child tell him to sign over his rights as the father and move on with your life.
2006-09-19 16:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by sweetlee725 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. I think that some guys just gets scared of responsability. While he might decide not to marry you, he must be a father to your son. That means not only money, but being there for your kid, share education duties, and spend time with your child.
I know you're going on some hard times, I think it's very hard when you're having a baby on a secure relationship because all your body and hormones changes that's going through you, but if you add that you have a insecure partner it's just harder. Talk to your bf, tell him that you need him by your side. Talk to your parents and family, don't try to do it alone. Maybe your bf just needs time to adjust to the idea, and, yes, I know, you didn't had time to get used to the idea, but just try to make the best out of this.
Good luck
2006-09-19 17:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Roberto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should be a non-stressful, enjoyable time for you. You're having a baby! There's nothing more amazing then that in this life! Let him figure out if he wants to be a dead beat dad or not, meanwhile if he shirks his responsibilities then make sure you take him to court the bastard. You just keep doing what a mommy is suppose to do and take care of that baby. Start getting the diapers and supplies ready and be close with relatives at this time because you will need them most now, and now you'll see who loves you the most. Just don't be afraid to ask for help and humble yourself for the sake of your child. Good luck dear.
2006-09-19 17:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't abort it!! Things always work out for the best, even though you're scared and darkness is around you. Trust in God, and don't stress or go without proper nutrition for it is unhealthy for your baby. Once it is born you will feel a sense of Love that you will never feel again, and you will be grateful for what life has dealt you. Never feel that it's your fault, even though he makes you feel that way. After all, once its born your boyfriend may understand that and feel a connection to be a father, so hang in there and God will provide a way!! Take care of yourself and your baby...
2006-09-19 17:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision about what to do with the baby will have to be left to you. At the end of the day many many women are left to raise their kids alone for one reason or another. Remember even married couples get divorced. He is probably freaked out. Think from his side, at the least he will be financially liable for another human for the next 18 years - thats a big call.
2006-09-19 17:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all sorry for all your going through i bet it 's confusing.
I would have to say he is just scared and either has to think it over or chicken out all together. whatever may happen in the end you will have a beautiful baby to love and care for and who will love you back. Even if he doesnt go back to you... It may be hard but it will only get easier and make you stronger.
Best Wishes
2006-09-19 17:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by native_lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 07:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he only wants to play; he doesn't want to pay. I think both parties should think about that possibility before they jump into anything (like bed), and be ready for the responsibility if that happens. If you can't depend on him ( and it sounds like you can't ) then you need to move on and make some plans for yourself and your baby, and some day you will find a real man.
2006-09-19 17:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by country nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably really scared and it is much easier for a guy to walk away from this kind of situation, the girl is the one who is pregnant, just give him time and space and maybe he will do the right thing and stand by you, as for you, i know the feeling of being alone pregnant and scared, but you will do fine, lean of family and friends untill you feel stronger, good luck and god bless
2006-09-19 17:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's is immature. I'm sorry this is a decision you have to make. I can't force my own on you, but I'd bring the baby to birth. I was an orphan once. Glad I'm here.
If you were my daughter, it would depend on your age. I'm really sorry you're going through this, especially alone, and not knowing who is there for you. I strongly suggest talking to a parenthood advisor. It's for your, and your child's good.
Wish you well.
2006-09-19 17:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋