ive bee having alot of trouble latley between me and my parents, moving out is not an option right now for money reasons, however im dating this guy and we r planning to get married eventually within the next 3 yrs bleh; and he doesnt like my parents so much. they are very controlling and mean and annoying, they always tell me what to do and they always interfere with my life. ive tried talking to my bf on how he can like them, but nothing is working. i dont want advice on breaking up and finding someone who likes my family, i just want advice on how to handle this situation and if there are any personal experiences...ive been really stressed out and depressed
thank you
2006-09-19 16:40:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well if you love him it shouldn't matter if your family likes him or if he likes your family. And if your family loves you they will accept him. And if he loves you he will accept your family.
2006-09-19 16:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you by chance talked to your family about this? There may be something they see about him that you don't. I normally don't think parents are doing something to be mean. Mine was controlling and always annoying.
It is a plus if your family and him can get along. It makes it much easier. I married my husband and hated, yes hated his mother. Well, I am stuck here, I have had to learn how to deal with her. I still don't like her but her son is who I am in love with. Is there a way that you could sit all of them down together and find a middle ground? Something they all have in common? If they tell you what to do is there a way that you could include him in it, that is if they say go here do this...ect.
Just remember you still do live at home. It is there home as much as yours. But they pay the bills and you have to live by their rules. I know that sounds bad but it is the truth. Sorry.
2006-09-19 16:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not getting married for 3 years, there is plentyof time for your family to accept the bf. You didn't mention how old you are and that might be the problem. Try to be on good terms with your parents and respect them. It will serve you well when the time to marry comes around. In the meantime, when your boyfriend meets your parents, ask him to be super respectful, even if it's for a moment. In 3 years, they might change their tune. It will make it alot easier on you both. Godloveya.
2006-09-19 16:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, speaking from past experiences, a good man will always encourage you to get on better terms with your parents. Boyfriends come and go but parents are your eternal support. What if one day you break up with your boyfriend? Have you ever thought about the possibility? You will still have to go back to your parents right?
2006-09-19 16:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to break-up with a bf just because he doesn't like your parents. You should base your thoughts of him on how he treats you day in and day out. Yes, once you're married, parents have to get involved someway or another; but that doesn't mean that he absolutely cannot live anymore because of them. Try telling him in different words that he doesn't need to like your parents, but if he loves you to at least show respect for them. That way you won't have your family talking bad about your bf, but your bf won't have to sacrifice his feelings towards them; and at the end, you'll be the one thanking yourself for it.
2006-09-19 16:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really planning on getting married, you're gonna have to solve this one, and I think that your boyfriend is gonna have to do most of the work. When you're married, you don't have to like your in-laws, but you do have to see them from time to time, and when you do, you have to put on a happy face and act nice. Otherwise, you royally screw up every holiday and mess up your kids for life. Can he manage this? If not, he's got some work to do before he's ready to get married to anybody.
2006-09-19 16:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jonathon M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 04:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him..that if he is with you he is going to have to get along with your parents.my bf thinks my mom is annoying well so do i.but i have to show her respect because im glad she lets me be with him.because she could just not let me do anything with him.just talk to your parents and let them know you really care about this guy.and see what they say.maybe they will simmer down
2006-09-19 16:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any boyfriend likes his girlfriend's family. But if your dad is like my dad he damn well better get you home on time.
2006-09-19 16:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋