Me and my bf got into a really huge fight. He went up north and has not called me. When I tried calling him he doesn't even try talking to me. I know that he is with all of his friends, so he wants to act tough for them. I know he has feelings for me bc everyone sees it and he has brought me to meet his entire family. I am also his first gf in years, so I know that it could be that he is rusty. My question is.. Guys (or girls) is it really that easy to get over someone or do you think he still has strong feelings and thinks about me? Do you think he is just waiting to get back to discuss our issues? I really need advice. I could literally feel my heart breaking :(
2006-09-19 16:31:06 · 24 answers · asked by christine1_4843 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would move on if you give into him now he will know he has that power over you..it's never easy to get over someone especially if you love them but if he really cared for you he would talk to you regardless of being with friends he would at least say hi or something
2006-09-19 16:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A really big fight doesn't necessarily have to mean the end of things. He probably just needs a cooling-off period to get things back in perspective. I wouldn't give up on the situation just yet. Give him some time alone, and my guess is, he'll be coming back to you. Guys with injured pride or hurt feelings don't let on how they feel. They generally split, which is what your boyfriend did. After they've had a chance to think things over, they usually come back. Since you had a good relationship before the fight, I think there's hope for it to be the way it was. Just be sure that whatever caused the fight can be resolved in such a way that it won't ever happen again. If you do get a chance to talk it over, which I hope you will, don't get mad all over again or put the blame on him entirely. It takes two to make a fight. Good luck! I hope things eventually work out for you.
2006-09-20 00:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First put a smile on your face, look yourself in the mirror and say i am worth it, i am pretty and i deserve better! Okay i really think hes waiting to come back, he just needs to cool off right now and hes with other people so its helping him just forget what happend, but those people are not going to be around always so once they are gone hes alone and when your alone what happends? You think big time on whats going on. And that is what hes going to do. You have to stop calling him, he knows your trying to get a hold of you and that you care for him so much, now let him get a hold of you if he wants to talk. But you gotta give him some time! He will have to discuss if its over or not sooner or later, and i dont think its over, i just think that this was just something he needed to push a side right now and get away. Your going to be having problems, and once you get through this one together it will make you stronger. And when he comes back and your two are really close again make a packed that next time you guys fight you two will talk about it and sort it out the same day because love concers all! But however if hes moved on, you need to put your best face forward and try to look at the postive things....at least you two are not married and kids are involed, now you can move on to better things even if you think you cant. Time heals all and trust me i promise you will get through it!
2006-09-19 23:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer this question, without all the facts. But i think that you should make an effort to call and apologize if you were wrong about anything. After you do that, wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, I think you need to move on. I know it will be hard because i can tell that you really love him. But you don't want to end up with someone that thinks of his friends more than you. You deserve a relationship with someone that will love and respect you enough to talk to you. And you need to be the same way for the one that gives you that love. If things don't work out for you, just remember, it's not the end of the world, even though you might think it is. The sun will come out tomorrow and you will smile again. Be at peace with yourself.
2006-09-19 23:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by dwanalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When problems arise guys run... They are all the same and they just dont like to face things in the heat of an argument so most of them need time! The more and more you harass a guy about something the further it will push him away. Give him some time and leave him COMPLETELY alone. Either he will come running back or you will know for sure that its really over
2006-09-19 23:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Allie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem happen to me, I left from a state in the south, and moved back up north, I know when i came back her i thought about her all the time, Know that i have been up for a year, i still think about her from time to time, You will never forget someone that you loved.
2006-09-19 23:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Big D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups can be hard. I would just wait to see what happens when he gets back.He may just need some time to think or not think about things.Trying to call him while he is with his friends may not be the best thing to do right now.It could just complicate
the situation more.Try to find something that occupies your time
until he is ready to talk.
I hope ever thing works out for you.
2006-09-19 23:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, if he wants to get away that badly, you'd better let him go. He needs to sort through some stuff and as mean as it is, he must want to do it without you.
I've done this before, and I got irritated with girls who kept trying to get me to "talk about it". Sometimes men don't want to talk about feelings. Yeah, it's stupid but it's true.
If he doesn't come back, I promise you that there will come a night when he regrets you like hell and wants you back more than anything.
But for now, ironically, NOT talking to him will make him more curious about you.
Be strong.
2006-09-19 23:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rabid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might still feel something for you, but you need to ask yourself if you want a man that runs away at the first sign of problems. If he's gone after you had a fight, chances are he'll do that again.
2006-09-19 23:33:41 · answer #9 · answered by live2ride 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
question is do you really want to put your life on hold and wait for his anwser? you said he is with his friends, his friends are more than likely telling him he should dump you and not worry about you, and yes he will try and look like he is over you in front of them..but you have to ask your self, if he really loves you and wants you why would his friends opinions make any diffrence? just back off and see what happens, dont call him..let it go, then you will find your true anwser...good luck!!!
2006-09-19 23:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋