What if your parents don't believe in being bi?
or what if your parents don't except that idea?
What is is gets awkward.
2006-09-19 16:28:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My parents are going through a divorce.
2006-09-19 16:31:49 · update #1
Well, I was talking to my mom about a bunch of my friends and their partners, and she said "You certainly have a lot of gay friends". I said "Does that raise any questions for you, Mom?" She asked "Should it? Do you want me to ask?" And I said "I'm Bi." and she asked me what that meant.
I told her "It doesn't mean that I need to be with a guy and a girl. It just means that when I fall in love with someone, it's because of who they are as a person, not because of, or limited by, their gender."
She asked if there had been a woman... I said, honestly "I've been in love with someone who loves me, but is not 'in love' with me" (my best friend). She thought about it for a few seconds and said "That must be hard." and that was the end of that.
(Went pretty well, if you ask me!)
By the way, the impetus for me having this conversation with my mom, was that the mother of one of my lesbian friends (who I'd met a couple of times and who is supportive of her daughter) checked in with me to see if I'd come out to my mother yet, and when she found out I hadn't, she said "She'll want to know! It might be hard at first, but it's better. Do it before Christmas." This was in summer. I came out to my mom in September of that year.
2006-09-27 15:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfraser04 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's gonne be ackward. It's like every parent's worst fear of hearing that their child is gay or bi, same thing. But that's your sexual preference and this is your life. And it all depends on how old you are it's a little tougher I think to tell them if you are still living at home. They'll just make you suffer more :) LOL And if your still young they'll try and tell you that you don't know what your talking about. But I mean that's who you are. Live your life. We all only live once. Good luck.
2006-09-19 16:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa&Michael U 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why do your parents need to know your sexual preferences. I'm bisexual and I handled it like this, my parents need not know about my sexual activities UNLESS you are bringing that special someone home to meet the parents and tell them "Mom, DAD this is the one for me, the one I'll marry". Funny thing about it, I was dating my first girl around the age of 16 and I didn't have to tell my parents, they figured it out from the closeness of the relationship I had with her. So basically what I'm saying is adapt the philosophy of the Army, " If they don't ask, Don't tell" What do they need to know for, you ain't getting ready to have sex with them, or maybe its for the shock value....But I say its none of their business.
2006-09-21 03:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Unless you really need to (like, you've met this awesome other girl and...), don't tell them now, as they're going through a crisis. You can sit on that.
Afterwards, just flat-out tell them. Make it very clear that it's about you and not them, and that you're not rebelling, and that you are certain.
2006-09-19 16:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Bottom line, very carefully! But, at this time, what purpose would it serve. Why not just be you and if they have any questions, answer them honestly. I don't see the need to force this. Take your time and figure out how you feel and what you want.
2006-09-19 16:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by blackfangz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would just come right out and say it becuase no matter what your parents think they should love you and respect that. It's your life and no one can tell you other wise.
2006-09-19 17:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by jeanqueen3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey, time to stop asking so much. please, listen to me, if your parents are going thru a divorce , this already shows they don't have much to do with your own ideas about life, just tell them and also say you're not asking for any permission, you're just letting them know because you love them so much...
2006-09-19 16:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
why tell them at all?
i've had experience with this crap. all it did was upset the hell out of my parents and i could've wrung my brother's neck for letting "THAT" cat out of the bag.
what did he accomplish? i don't have a clue---to my way of thinking all it did was cause a lot of heartache.
do what you want, but i wonder now what the purpose of telling parents is all about.
2006-09-19 16:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
if you don't really need to tell them then I would just leave it alone. If you have to tell them then just explain this is what you are about and they should love you no matter what.
2006-09-19 16:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by sup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in some cases u dont, but if u do be prepared for whatever may come your way
2006-09-19 17:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by 1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋