Will becoming a funeral directer/mortician have a negative affect on my marriage?

Question

I am thinking about going to mortuary school. My husband is concerned that I will have a negative experience at work and will bring the bad "vibes" home with me and that this will ruin our marriage. Is he right?

Answer 1

I don't think it would have anything to do with your marriage. He is just not liking the idea of you working with dead people so he had to make up an excuse so you would not want to do it.

Answer 2

Not true at all honey. My husband does this for a living. The only time it bothers him, is when he has to bury a child. We have five, and this hits a little close to home for him. Other than that, it's a job, like any other. There are high points and there are low points. My husband loves his job....the people he works with never talk back, you can set your own hours, you are never dealing with the same person twice, and the people you come in contact with, never complain about anything. Sorry, mortuary humor. If you husband is worried, listen to his concerns. I wasn't exactly thrilled when my husband told me he wanted to do this either. But this was something he wanted, and I love my husband. If this was his choice, then it was my duty to support him in it. Sixteen years into his career, I'm glad I did. It gave us both a better understanding of how valuable life really is! I'm not sure any other job could have done that for us. I wish you well honey, and I hope your husband comes around.

Answer 3

Work is work no matter if you are a doctor, lawyer or a mortician. You are more likely to bring bad vibes home if you have a job that you hate rather than doing something that you enjoy. Following your heart is the best way to avoid bad vibes because the bad vibes will come from resentment! Good Luck there Wednesday Adams! =)

Answer 4

I am hard-pressed to come up with any negative effects that are not religion-based. Most of the corporations I've worked for had identical benefits for domestic partners of the same sex as they did for opposite-sex spouses. The married tax base broadens a bit, which is actually a fiscal benefit in this country. The only substantial difference I can think of is that it should be easier for same-sex spouses to adopt children born within the union so that they can care for the children more effectively in terms of childcare credits and FMLA time. The negative effects of that are minimal, and the child can be better cared-for by both parents. Good question. Edit: Last I heard, there was no shortage of live births in this country. One more non-reproductive couple (assuming there are no children born or adopted into the family) is not going to have much effect on the country's birthrate in the lifetime of anyone able to read this today.

Answer 5

yes, because he has already made up his mind. He obviously doesn't want you to take the job.Which can be proved through his own words...negative experience..........and....bad vibes".
He is letting you know that even if you can handle the job he can't.
I am giving this view based on my own marriage. When ever my husband uses negative words... I decide not to do it ...always to hear, at a later date, how happy he is with the decision I made. It only took 3 times (putting a great strain on our marriage) to realize I needed to pay closer attention to what he was saying.You can test it by telling him you've heard the heard the hidden meaning in his words and decided your marriage is more important than any job what kind of career would he suggest for you.I would be willing to bet he will tell you how relieved he is and why(death can creep some people out so much that they can't even touch someone who touches a dead body ).

Answer 6

Some of my best friends are morticians. No more upsetting than any other profession.Death is a fact of life, let's face it. The only suggestion I would make is to take a thorough shower or bath prior to greeting your husband at night. Your occupation would not ruin your marriage, but his apparent attitude about it might.

Answer 7

Trust me, not at all. I'm a funeral director, and any bad vibes stay right where they belong, at work! I have never had a problem. My hubby doesn't like to hear about the dead people, but he is supportive and understanding of my career choice. There really aren't that many bad vibes anyways. Congrats on your decision, this is a wonderful and rewarding career! God bless!

Answer 8

Unfortunately, your spouse is out of touch with the real world. Everybody is going to die(eventually). He doesn't want to hear about anything negative and most people view death
as negative. Let's face it. Death is never timely.
I'm certain he doesn't want to hear about the details. Why don't both of you go and pay a local mortician a visit and ask him what his marriage has been like. If your spouse refuses to go, go alone. You might learn something!

Answer 9

Why should it. It is a job. Nothing more, nothing less. But, your husband's concern is a warning flag. If it is simply a matter of his being uncomfortable with funeral homes and morticians, then he should be able to adjust. But, if his issue has more to do with you working or controlling you, then you have problems.

Answer 10

it will have a positive affect on your bank balance. working as a funeral director is a very good job & one quite a few people would like to do BUT as you they have family with negative views. you would have to be able to try & NOT get involved it would be very hard if you got a child in. if you think you could handle that then go for it. its a job i would of liked to do but sadly i became to ill to work so i couldnt persue it. but i wish you the best of luck. i have also found you a good site to look at.