2006-09-19 16:26:26 · 7 answers · asked by slphillips_67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
personally when i was dating i would not even date a woman with kids. I am older now and GOD forbid something happens to my marriage i would have to reconsider that. I mean not to many choices now. But i would not take care of them unless we got married. I am not their father and i will not try to be their father. If i was their stepfather and we lived in the same house that would be a different story. If i am just dating their mother she is their responsibility
2006-09-19 17:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the time it is because the ex, or kids mom has problems with another woman taking care of her kids! I can only tell you aboutmy personal experience. My step-daughter's mom called us up one day and said that she was bringing s-d to us to live with us, she was 15 at the time, the mom could not controll her, she was wild, lazy, and had no respect for anyone else, and acted like everyone should kiss her butt! My hubby has to travle a lot with his work so everything fell on me. I really did not care, I took her in and treated her like she was one of my own. Which meant that she had to follow the same rules as my sons, but she lied to everyone and told them that I did not treat her the same. But I did, we had weekly chore lists for allowances everyone got the same thing, privleges were given and taken for the same reasons, ect. Well, money started dissapearing from my purse, stealling smokes, running up the phone bill, calling her friends long distance, and telling me that my son did it when he did not know anyone in that town $450 for one month, skipping school.
Anyway, mypoint is that when something goes wrong it is always 100 times worse when it is someone elses kids, I don't care how good of a realtionship we have with their mom.
2006-09-19 23:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest its because they are upset about knowing that no matter what you will always have this conection with this other girl no matter what if you two have kids. This other women is always going to be in you life and that bothers most women.But if she really loves you she will grow to love your kids as well and treat them as her own, and realize that its not the kids fault so not to punish them. Let her know that the kids are apart of you and for her to have a good relationship with you shes gotta accept your kids and love them.
2006-09-19 23:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women need to keep in mind that the children are the innocent in the relationship... They should care for them respectfully as part of being with the father.
2006-09-19 23:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by horizon9495 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that person realy loves you shi will love you other children like her own because there part of you your own blood. thats how i fell
2006-09-19 23:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are someone else's kids and not their own.
2006-09-20 00:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by onnie9902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn would someone please tell my current wife the answer to this question and explain it to her..............I have the same problem.
2006-09-19 23:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by emortalwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋