i am 36 weeks pregnant and i go into labor before my scheduled induction there is no way my husband will be here..he is a nuclear engineer and works in another state right now..his job is very important and he is the breadwinner so it would be difficult for him to take this much time off just incase. i guess i am just wondering how others have dealt with it..i am fine with it but i know my heart will be broke when the time comes.
2006-09-19 16:22:28 · 12 answers · asked by malanina 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if i go into labor before the scheduled induction as soon as i call he is flying home..if i hold out til then he will be here but he is only staying 5 days either way..he will be here but if my water breaks i know he won't make it back in time by the time he gets a flight..he makes more in 1 week than most do in month and we are accustomed to that so it is kind of difficult for him to say screw it...he is for as long as he can with out being pulled from the project.
2006-09-19 16:35:53 · update #1
I have four kids, and my husband had a heart attack three days before the last was born. He's fine, but he was obviously a bit preoccupied and in another hospital room when our daughter was born.
To be honest, I didn't miss him because I was extremely focused on what I was doing. The important thing is to have someone there -- a friend, relative, anyone -- who can act as your advocate...who can run interference when you want the nurses to leave you alone, who can get you water and blankets and whatever else you decide you need, who can help you walk (and walk and walk and walk!!)...and who can take pictures too, if that's important to you.
What IS important now is for you to not worry about it -- you can't control when that baby decides to make his/her appearance, and the stress you're feeling is very apparent in your question. Find a good surrogate to take his place, just in case, and enjoy (?? I don't know about that...those last four weeks aren't exactly comfortable!!) the rest of your pregnancy -- it's almost over and it will all have been so worthwhile!!
2006-09-19 20:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have your baby without your husband being present, without any problems at all. The most important thing to remember is how wonderful your baby's birth is going to be. Your husband doesn't have to be there. In fact, some husbands get too nervous in the labor rooms and need to leave. It really doesn't help t ahve those guys around. You'll be fine and so will your baby.
It's most important to be totally positive about this, and not dwell on negative thoughts, like how heart broken you'll be if your husband can't get there to be with you.
2006-09-19 23:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you just have to stay strong. Many women give birth without there husbands just surround yourself with people that you love and you will be okay. It's just another obstacle in life you have to deal with to the best of your ability and then move on. You'll have a life to take care of pushing it out is the easy part :)
Good luck!
2006-09-19 23:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jonesy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have given birth with out my (NOW EX) husband. He took me to the hospital and left to go deer hunting. So it was his fault. I did have my mom there so it was better than having him there.
If possible have someone to tape it for you. That way if he is gone he can at least have the opportunity to see it. Without actually being there. I think this would mean a lot to both of you. Good luck!!
2006-09-19 23:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard. I am planning on staying w/ my mother the last couple of weeks. (Dallas has better hospitals.) And my husband will be in another town about 45 minutes away. (I know it's not another state but I understand your worry.) I hope he makes it too. But it is important to have SOMEONE whom you trust to be there with you. Or if you can stay on a celphone with your husband as long as possible. Be inventive and stay strong.
2006-09-20 00:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by RealitySucks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave birth without a husband but it was a completely different situation. Just remember, even if he isn't there at birth, he will have an entire lifetime to bond with the baby! Good luck, I hope he can be there!
2006-09-19 23:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't care how important his job is-he could be the f------ president-tell him to get his a--home to see the best moments life has to offer-and if that doesn't work-don't do it alone-take someone special to share this w/ you-
2006-09-19 23:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard. did it while my hb was deployed. u will be more than busy enough having the baby. he is there in spirit and that means everything. hope u have other people there with u.
2006-09-19 23:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was there (now my ex) and he didn't do any of the pushing. You can do it!
2006-09-19 23:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes Mary Christ
2006-09-20 00:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by alireza j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋