My wife and i am trying so very hard to handle our 6+ year old son, who really has a terrible temper! Maybe we pampered him too much when he was young.( First born and grandson to both side). We really love him but sometimes its really difficult for us and we started shouting bouts.Is there anyway or ayone who we can see for help? Thinking of going to a Psychiatrist for help for both our son and us together.Does KK provide such service? Or only at IMH?
Anyone who have similar problems or know of any organizations who might help, please reply to this.
Thank you in advance.
2006-09-19 16:20:46 · 18 answers · asked by Tight Shoes-Big Feet? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Our grand daughter is quite a bit like this, we had sort of a joint family meeting and all decided she had to mind better. We praise her a lot when she is good!!!!!!!!!!! We reward her with little things instead of toys and goodies now. For instance if she is really good (not perfect, it is hard for anyone to be PERFECT) I take her to McDonalds for ice cream and let her play or something like that, maybe go biking with her. She has made a big turn around. I truly believe by giving her little chores around the house and really praising her has helped. She sets the table, folds wash rags, dusts and feeds the dog.............I told her I heard how good she was at folding and told her I would like to hire her, I let her water house plants and do little jobs and then I gave her a choice of $1 or going with me for a walk.......she chose the walk.........they bascially want attention -good luck
2006-09-19 16:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, discipline should have began a long time ago. At 6 he's pretty much made up his mind and probably knows all about manipulation. But that's not the point. You can't go back at this point. So from this day on, you and your husband set some ground rules. Schoolwork, playtime, outside time, chores, all need to have rules and start off slowly. Set a regular bed time, give him rules for after school. Like me kid has to do his spelling words when he comes home, then do his chores, then he has an hour and a half of free play then it's dinner, bath, and bed. Every single night at the same time. The key is consistency. If he does not follow the rules, then it's time out, a whipping for only serious infractions, or taking away something he enjoys. But you have to back up what you say you will do. If you say "If you don't clean up your toys right now, mommy will put you in time out for 2 minutes" then that's what you need to do. I believe in spankings but only because I got my butt whipped when I was little but it taught me boundaries and limits and what I could and couldn't do. Your child needs to know who's the boss and what consequences are. Don't let anyone stop you either. And don't give up because the first two months of this is hard but stick with it and make sure you and hubby are in complete agreement at all times. Kids will pick up on parent's discord so make sure any disagreements you have are in private. Good luck honey.
2006-09-19 16:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my son. only he would hit also and would not mind anyone ever!!! There are a lot of different things you can do. What did i do? I took my son to a behavior doctor we only had to go for about a month (once a week) and fixed his problem and learned things to help us for the rest of our parenting days! Good luck! I dont know what KK or IMH is, but you can look online to find one in your area. I got lucky and a friend knew of someone.
2006-09-19 16:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Nanny 911 or something like that . I see that they are following a new system of rules & discipline published by an expert in this subject & they are very strict. The best you can do for now is: tell him what is wrong immediatly & say that there will be consequences. If he repeats the behavior show him the consequences without hesitation (time out in a specially designated 'naughty place'. You must mean what you say & NOT back down.
2006-09-19 16:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by PAMELA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your idea of making an appointment to see a therapist as a family is a good one. Most behavior problems in young children are a result a parenting style that isn't working. Counseling will give you a new outlook and new tools to help change your son's behavior. And I'm not judging you at all...got this information from first hand experience.
2006-09-19 16:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem with my oldest. We took her to the doctors and found out she is Autistic, and so is her brother. They seem normal, but they are very rebellious. Some good advice here is to have them checked for ADD, ADHD, things of that nature. It could just be as you said, it might just be your fault and nothing serious, but you should look into it more in depth. If he does have a problem, the sooner you catch it, the better chance he has of being normal, and living a normal life. Take him to a mental health facility to get checked, it`s worth it. You can also look up his symptoms online at different websites, look under ADD , ADHD, or anything you could possibly think of. It might be nothing, he might just need a good spanking and some dicipline, but if you do that, you need to stick with it, or you will just be damaging him more. I hope this helps you. God Bless.
2006-09-19 17:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Spiritled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having trouble expressing himself, being so young and all...Have you sat him down and asked why he is so upset and acting the way he is? Communication can really help. A psychiatrist is a great idea or could he be just spoilt? If so, then you need to set ground rules for him and he needs to know theres consequences for his actions, he's old enough to understand that.
2006-09-19 16:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister has a son that is also bad tempered she has him on medication was does not help at all so do not ever try that i would try boot camp like angel74 said ror take away his toys sometimes u have to be even more firm if you know what i mean u cant let your children walk all over you!
2006-09-19 16:28:10 · answer #8 · answered by lita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great. Another one trying to find a doctor to raise his child. The operative word in that sentence being raise. Too many parents have tried the time out and talking to b.s. It's time to get down to it and spank that butt. Give me a break.
2006-09-19 17:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Wiccan Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your son's problem is the upbringing and emotional. There are many factors, it can be loneliness, the game/toys he is playing, etc. Your case is not uncommon but help is necessary.
Are you both Christians? Prayers might certainly help.
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2006-09-19 16:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋