Okay I am legally married it was a stupid thing to do I married a guy in prision and I really didn't know him. I finally started anotherrealtionship and got involved seriously and ended up prgnant and now I am living with him. Wehave been toghter for like four years the thing is he has no clue that I am legally married to someone else. I don't know where this guy is that I married other then Florida somewhere, and now my daughter's father is talking about getting married and I can't marry him. My daughter has my last name because I got away with using my madien name on everything since we really never lived toghter on the outside and never really filed anything with his name even though m I really do have his last name, my man doesn't know that either what should I do that means that legally his daughter really isn;t his daughter she really should have the other man's last name instead of mine please help me out here
2006-09-19 16:20:00 · 11 answers · asked by Shanana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What a fine mess u got into. U were dishonest from the get go and instead of filing for divorce from your first husband, u went ahead and started a new relationship. Well the only thing u can do now to make this right is to be honest with the man you're now with. U can't go on living a lie. Hopefully he will understand and forgive u. Then if he still wants u, after having told him a lie, u can go ahead and file for divorce from your first husband. That's the only way u can be legally married to the new guy.
2006-09-19 16:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe your little problem has been blown way out of proportion in your mind. The most important thing is to come clean with your new guy. You are too caught up with the whole name thing, too. You can legally keep whichever name you want. There is no law stating you MUST change it when you get married. If you and your new guy were not married when you had your daughter, you can give her your maiden name with no problem. I am assuming you used your maiden name, right? and not the prisoner's last name on the birth certificate?
I think although your new guy may be upset with you for awhile, it will be best to come clean about the whole thing so you two can get all the legalities worked out to get married yourselves.
Below is a site that can tell you where your "husband" is located so you can get the paperwork going on the divorce.
Good luck and best wishes
2006-09-19 23:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, as I understand it, your daughter is the child of the man that your living with. NOT the inmate, is this correct? If so, then why would you think that you would have to give her the last name of the inmate instead of her fathers last name that your living with? Actually , she should have her fathers last name.
The best advice I can give you is to be honest with him and tell him the situation. If he cares about you and his daughter, he will understand and stand beside you through the divorce. Then you will be free to marry him. He has a right to know the truth.
Honesty is the best policy, always. Just tell him the truth, and go from there.
Best of luck,
J
2006-09-20 00:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to own up to your mistake to your boyfriend, tell him you made a terrible mistake a long time ago ... and then get yourself a lawyer or a legal aid counslor to start divorce proceedings or annulment proceedings since the marriage was under false pretences you have grounds for the annulment (never consumated) ... if not a non contested divorce should be available to you.
As for your daughter she is always going to be your bfs child no matter what her name is but get it on the birth certificate and change hers to his.
good luck with everything!!
2006-09-19 23:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for a divorce and/or annulment. Upon receiving it, marry your boyfriend and stop playing house. Even though your kid is illegitimate, give her a chance at happiness by marrying her biological father and quit playing around with the losers!
2006-09-19 23:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with the new one. And explain to him that you never meant to hurt him, but you really do care about him. Then you need to find a lawyer and your husband that way you can get this divorce. And your daughter does belong to your new man.
Good Luck!
2006-09-19 23:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is one of the main things in a relationship...you need to tell your man. Then I guess you'd need to find your "husband" somehow and file for divorce.
2006-09-19 23:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lawyer but it sounds to me like your in a mess. If the marriage was never consummated you should be able to get an annulment. Pray, Pray, Pray.
2006-09-19 23:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by SouthernLady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
!st off your daughter IS the new bf's daughter regardless if you're married and she has the right last name NOW!!! 2ndly call your spouse's parole office(He has to have one since he was in jail) and find out his contact info so you can have him served with divorce papers.
2006-09-19 23:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file a divorce.. It the person doesn't show up, a Judge will proceed to divorce you
2006-09-19 23:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by etherberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋