My boyfriend grew up with out a father and his mother didn't spend too much time with him. I think that's why we have some problems in our relationship. He's not very romantic or give compliments or show too much affection. I know he loves me and he really tries but he even says he wasn't taught to be that way. Where my familiy is just the opposite. What can I do?
2006-09-19 16:05:19 · 12 answers · asked by Sasasa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As much as you would like to, you cannot change the way someone is at their core. So you really only have two choices, moving on or dealing with it. You do deserve happiness in life and your shouldn't settle for anything other than the absolute best! Good Luck!
2006-09-19 16:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by nikki_butterfly777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf sounds more like me i had no father and i only live by my mothers house rules, laws and tasks to do house work i have no girlfriend to be romantic or nice or even buy things, but i believe i can do much better i need to talk to my mom about these things and when i did i got to be free i started to learn what is love and about my father and how he was like my father was a gentleman he always been nice to ppl even poor ppl i think i got that side from him and my stubborn from mom. but love is something that needs to be done slow dont need to rush try to talk step by step is the choice of purity
2006-09-19 16:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know and are absolutely sure that he truly really loves you, then it's good. But he still should treat a lady like a lady! Be a gentleman, you know? (or is that old...?). Just tell him how to treat you properly, but don't be demanding and order him around like a drill sergeant. Just smile and be kind and friendly and sweet to him, and if he has any sense at all, and if he's truly compassionate and is a true man, he'll start treating you properly. ^_^ Just because he was raised that way doesn't necessarily mean he should be cold to you.
2006-09-19 16:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Display Name 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) (pay attention- very important!)
do not tell him that he needs to learn how to treat you! he will atomaticly assume that you are a conceited, snuff-nosed kindof person.
you could just BE romantic. trust me, he will get it after a while.
talk about chick flicks, your life senarios, romance novels... girl stuff.
you could show him I Corinthians 13. whether you believe in the Bible or not, this book accurately defines true Love. he may start to think about you more like this book talks.
be Loving, set the example. people think (for some reason) that men are supposed to lead relations. if he needs help- HELP HIM
BE THERE FOR HIM
pray that he would want to be more loving, and that you will not be conceited.
- Silence Dogood.
(i hope it helped, you could email me- rhynosaurus6@yahoo.com- if you think i've got something, and would like some more! )
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-19 16:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Silence Dogood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it to him. Teach him by showing him. Continuously SHOW affection and he may repeat it, say that tonight u want to go to a special restaurant and let him know when u are there how nice it is, how much it means to you etc. Kind of like cause and effect. He needs to be shown and he'll probably repeat it when he sees how much u react when its being done
2006-09-19 16:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by azuleyes404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time his heart will show him the way and even the way you treat him he'll start to pick it up and sometimes you can't change a person they have to find it in the thereselves to change.
2006-09-19 16:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Communication is always key. Just give subtle hints and avoid nagging. He will eventually come around when he starts to love the response he gets.
2006-09-19 16:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him, only he can change himself. If you want or need something in a relationship the only way to let the other person know is good communication.
2006-09-19 16:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with his best friend, and then say it was because his friend is romantic and compliments you all the time. That will work.
2006-09-19 16:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God...another woman who goes into a relationship saying to herself "I can make him change." Not to put him or you down but you are asking for the battle of the ages. Sorry, but given the info you have you can certainly try, but..........I'm glad that you know he's loving & kind but the changing part? Dunno..
2006-09-19 16:16:36 · answer #10 · answered by PAMELA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋