2006-09-19 15:46:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People unaware tend to reinvent the only lives they have ever known. If that life has been chaos and pain they will find themselves in different scenarios that are uncomfortable yet familiar. Freud described the way we tend to repeat and perpetuate the relationships we know. He called it repetition compulsion. We drag out the old game board, choose the most familiar pieces with which to play, and arrange or rearrange them
in familiar patterns. Today I am the abuser and you are the child, you are me. Tomorrow I shall be the child, and you can torture me. Over and over human beings will play out enactments of painful childhood events hoping to exorcise the past and set the players free.
2006-09-19 23:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in a subconscious level. Some people are always attracted to the wrong types of people who can never make them happy. Then when that fails, they go out and seek the same type of people. It's almost like a habit.
2006-09-19 23:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That;s because they don't stop and think about what they did wrong so that they can learn from it. If you take a break and go over the things that got you there, you would definitely turn and take another path and learn from your past mistakes. these type of people will never learn unless they change the way they look for men.
2006-09-19 22:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be a lot of different reasons. Mostly has to do with the way you were brought up and your relationship with your family and friends. People start to get into certain patterns and are looking for certain attributes. You might not even know it. It takes a lot of work to start looking outside the box.
2006-09-19 22:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some they have to learn the hard way that they tend to be attracted to the same type of personalities before they "get it" and wake up and realize they need to be picky of who they choose as a partner..
2006-09-19 23:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's a comfort thing. Even if it's a bad relationship. That's all they've know for so long it seems normal. I do it all the time.
2006-09-19 22:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Familiar patterns of behavior. Comfort. Same role, different person, same outcome. Very sad.
2006-09-19 22:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not able to recognize what they don't want in a person. They have to change in order to attract a person that will be good to them.
2006-09-19 22:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because many people prefer to be right about their negative self-images than to be happy.
2006-09-19 22:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kip S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they chose to, or in some cases, it is because they were tempted. Most certainly, they just didn't learn much from their past mistakes.
2006-09-19 22:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋