Is there any problem with me?

Question

Hye, i'm 25 and i'm still single .I never had any intimate relationships b4 as i believe that it shud only be done with someone I truly love and I havent' found such a person in my life yet.MY problem is that, every night, I can't sleep in a normal way, meaning, i can't just lie on the bed, close my eyes and just sleep or read a book and thn knock off.I have this problem wherby i hav to Masterbate every time b4 i go to sleep.Sumtimes i feel drained out of energy each night when I do this repeatedly but I can only sleep after I do this act.Once i tried to avoid M'bating but it only resulted in me not sleeping for 2 nights.Is there sumthing wrong with me?I did go thru major depression 1 year back and now i'm doing meditation and mind calming but the night sleep activity has stil not left me yet.I feel like I'm not capable of sleeping in a normal way.Please help me and i hope i did not ask sumthing tht's too "obscene".I m having this problem and i'd like a solution as i feel shy.

Answer 1

I honestly can't think of a way to solve your problem. But I can say that it's not such a bad thing. It should not affect your ability to have a relationship with the person you truly love, because chances are, you'll have sex and you will be able to sleep quite well afterwards.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I know what you mean. I try to be celibate as long as possible but my mind gets into like royalty like stuff and I have to come down from it . ..and just be a normal person. I start to have weird visions, like when youre dreaming kind of visions (for example last night I saw like this woven tapestry type thing up above my head with mind's eye like when you think of an apple); and it also affects my sleep sometimes but not very often .. .have you tried cold baths or showers? For me I think spending a little time outdoors in nature helps for a little while, listening to crickets or something . ..I am also seeking a solution to this problem as I want to be completely celibate, but for me it's not so much an insomnia problem as it is a staying on the same page as others type problem .. .maybe also try jumping up and down type exercising to exhaust yourself even if you dont feel like it; playing a musical instrument might help . ..it calmed me once to put some dry dirt as in potting soil on my skin.

Also I would try giving up pork completely and the only way to do that is to buy everything kosher or pareve because I think pork products cause or contribute to sexuality, even unwanted sexuality

Singing does seem to help but I dont want to sing where my parents can hear me and I am not sure it was a real Jewish website because I think I have seen some fake ones possibly; but I read it was against religious law for females to sing. Sometimes I do anyway when my parents are asleep because it makes me feel better and I dont know what else to do and it seems better than breaking my celibacy; but sometimes it seems like I'm doing more harm than good by singing

Also maybe head coverings help with celibacy; all religious traditions which encourage celibacy seem to require them except maybe Protestant Christianity or American Indian religion

Answer 3

it makes me sad to think you think theres something wrong with you masturbation is how i avoided becoming pregnant in school there is nothing wrong or dirty about it dont be ashamed the only problem it soulds like you have is depression and not being able to sleep which go hand and hand are you on any antidepressants it sounds to me like you need to tell your doctor you dont need to tell them about your masturbation just that you cant fall asleep it also helps to get some physical activity going at least a half hour but not too close to bed time do your meditation and then try to sleep wind doen time will be needed

take care

Answer 4

Seem yr meditation & mind calming is not working well for u. Maybe u should try other method or go for some counselling. don't think it's healthly for u to do it every nite in order to get into sleep.

Answer 5

Stop with the handjobs! Replace that with a workout to retrain your mind out of the sedentary lifestyle you currently have and enjoy the improved self esteem you get for doing better things to yourself instead of with yourself!

Answer 6

I don't know how to fix your problem but i think you need your friends cause you know there always there for you! And although you don't know me. You should always know i'm here for you! But too be honest go on a date have fun live your life the way you want to no one is holding you back.

Answer 7

can your friends help you? or do you have friends. you need to meet some if you dont. i mean, the depression can have something to do with it, so go see your docotr and see if you can get some ills or somehting!

Answer 8

I think you're okay. It's when your masturbation takes over your regular daily life that you need help.

Answer 9

try going out and meeting someone, that way someone else can put u to sleep besides yourself.

Answer 10

no