Lets say thet a man is a good man,wakes up every morning with the intent to to do wright by everybody,lets say this man wouldnt hurt anything on gods green earth, But through life he was always in trouble normally because of drugs and alcohol. you know feeling bad and things make him feel better so nhe deals drugs and basically anything so as long as he doesnt have to hurt anybody. His moms feelings top of the list. Last 6 yrs. this man got out of prison met a girl and didnt do great but kept a job and his head above water.Over the last 1 & 1/2 years his girl dropped him and it seemed like trouble followed He was put on valumd for stress and Lortab 10/500 for a bad back that he got through working ,this man aquired a DUI. This man had no alchol in him or illegal drugs. Now everytime he turns around he is in trouble again. No matter how hard he trys.If this man was put on a polygragh machine and asked,Are you a good man and he rplies yes &passes. Should he be given a2nd chance?
2006-09-19 15:21:39 · 10 answers · asked by vito c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Again long diatribe, based on a poor premise. Why do you call him a good man? What is your definition of a good man? A good man who wouldn't hurt anything does not deal drugs who hurt not only the user, but children and families of users. So your premise is off. If this man thinks he is a good man on a polygraph, he is delusional. You say his girl dropped him and it seemed trouble followed - this is classic of a loser to say trouble followed....no trouble doesn't follow, it happens because the person went out and did something he wasn't supposed to do, bent the rules, broke the law.
If one wants to be a good man, they don't deal drugs, do drugs, abuse alcohol, hurt his mother by his actions, spend time in prison and then get a DUI---if he got a DUI he had alcohol in him, period.
Should who give him a 2nd chance? God will always love him, but he needs to step up and stop blaming everything under the sun for his failures.
You know the drill - The saying is--don't tell me-----show me....he needs to stop talking and start just living a good life. The proof is in the doing..not saying he wants to, but doing it.
2006-09-19 15:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. He sounds pathetic. Men never change. They have life easier than a woman by default. Who complains for the women raising kids on their own because guys like this drop them and skip town, not paying child support? Who whines about the women that had sex once and got pregnant, or trusted someone and got an std, or worse---AIDS.
Consider this: Whenever a woman gives a man like this another chance (like in an abusive situation), people always tell her she's stupid for doing it and forgiving him and then going back to him. The cycle always repeats itself. So let's consider 'life' the woman in this case. He knows he screws up. He doesn't change though. He would have done it a while ago, wouldn't he? But he keeps telling 'life' that he will change, but doesn't. This man sounds like a mess. He won't change.
Men revel in the 'men cannot change' comments and how women are always trying to change them. Don't men always tell us women eventually that men don't ever change? So from what I've learned from them, MEN NEVER CHANGE...and that's FROM a man!
I have no pity for this loser. Cut your losses and move on.
(and I also agree with Indiana_girl too)
2006-09-19 15:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Neophyte 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he deals drugs, drinks etc doesn't make him a bad man. He's just into the wrong sort of thing. But yes, everyone deserves a second chance.
2006-09-19 15:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Dink 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is phrased with a bias towards this "man".
Would I want my daughter getting involved with this "man"?.......HELL NO!
I'll bet you wouldn't want yours to either if you answer honestly.
Drugs? Alcohol? DUI? This "man" has had PLENTY of 2nd chances already. It's time for this "man" to grow up and ACT like a man.
Sorry......but you asked.
2006-09-19 15:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Joey Bagadonuts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm praying for him. I know it ain't much, coming from a man who hasn't seen near the troubles of this man, but, just keep on trying. You weren't born to be a loser. Pick people you can depend on, be the best friend, son, boyfriend you can be and just try your best. That's all anybody can ask.
2006-09-19 15:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by jorst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus gives you second chance's everyday as long as you have asked him into your heart. Then you can ask him to forgive you for your sin's. He will walk with you everyday and be there for you. Don't be down on yourself god tests us everyday. And try to remember when you think you've got it bad turn on the news and you will about someone who has it worse.
2006-09-19 15:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by ED S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a long question. Sure, everyone deserves a second chance. Good luck in life.
2006-09-19 15:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by missie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-28 03:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this man do his drugs and then get on Yahoo Answers and babble incoherently?
2006-09-19 15:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-09-19 15:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by oh wow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋