My ex has the oldest son saying I abused him, he talked with her lawyer and told her that, the other two kids say I never have and that she made the oldest lie. Me and her had a verbal agreement that I gave her money every week, and she gave me the kids, she refuses to give me my kids now. she has been an unfaithful wife...
2006-09-19 15:12:35 · 17 answers · asked by clf_0204 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell the B#@%H to prove it in court.
2006-09-19 15:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself a good lawyer and fight her. If you know in your heart that you never abused your children, and that she broke the verbal agreement, and was also unfaithful, I'd say you have a good case against her. If you can't afford a lawyer, go the legal aid society where you live. Here's another tip -- verbal agreements don't mean beans. You have to have things in writing, or as my lawyer put it, "a paper trail". That way, there's no question that she broke the agreement. Custody battles are no fun, and they can go on for months. If you are sincere and play your cards right, a judge will see that you at least have generous visitation rights, even if she does get custody of the kids. Of course, you will have an obligation to support these children, and if you fail, she does have the option of withholding the visits. But do consult an attorney to preserve your rights. Good luck!
2006-09-19 15:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no police report no evidence no act. so if you only have a verbal agreement it may be wise to just abide by the divorce decree. if she doesnt let you see them then she is in breech of contract. basically your a guy so dont go back to court unless you have to you will get regrilled on everything. the court is biased against men in a divorce so get your own lawyer and see what they think about going back and getting partial custody and how to make the money stay the way it is or even less.
but if the agreement was that if you paid you got to see them stop paying.
2006-09-19 15:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, when it's your time in court, it will all come out. The other two children will help out a lot. The judge actually will have the kids take part in this. And will take what the kids have to say for a great deal. And if the other kids say that the mom is making them lie, he will also consider that. Don't worry, it will all work out in the end. You want to see your kids, and raise them and be a large part of their lives. Good Luck...
2006-09-19 15:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by luv him 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My X did the same thing to me. He told my daughter that I was a thief and a slut. She believes him because he has the money. You know..."money talks". Well, ALWAYS be on your best behavior around the children. Never
put down your spouse in front of them. Smile
and be pleasant(not matter how difficult). Kids
aren't stupid. They KNOW the truth. They will eventually "come around". They don't like to be in the middle of a divorce situation; it's tough
on them because one family now becomes 2
families. A good judge can see through all the B.S. Just be calm. These things have a way of working out in the end. Good luck!
2006-09-19 17:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mother Hen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop people from lying, but it might help you to know that the courts hear this everyday from thousands of divorce cases and usually can weed out the BS. I know this isn't legal advise you might be hoping for, but I went through a mean divorce before and my ex was blowing smoke like that too...the courts saw through it and gave me full custody. I really hope the best will work out for you and your children. Good luck and take care.
2006-09-19 15:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a lawyer because you have just as many rights as she does. What she is doing is wrong and she should not have the choice to keep you from your children. Her lawyer should also be ashamed. I find some women have put thier husbands through hell and then find the strength to keep doing it after they have split the sheets. She needs to get a grip and quit being a butt. Do what you have to to see your children. They need you right now and do not let her stand in your way!!!!!
2006-09-19 15:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. Just know that God knows all and He sees all. Pray for the Lord's guidance. Read your bible. Stay focused, don't let the enemy (satan) destroy you. You are a victor and not a victim. I will pray for you and your wife and children. Everything will work out in time. God bless. Read 1st and 2nd Corinthians
Hoping to see you one day in Heaven
2006-09-19 15:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by Selah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own attorney, document your situation. Don't talk to the kids anymore about the situation. Don't put them in the middle...they don't need to hear about mommy and daddys dirty fight. Pay your child support, put the kids first, don't ask about your wife, and work on your relationship with the kids. The Marraige is over....the parenting is not.
2006-09-19 15:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by L.lion 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what state you are in, but i think that it is not up to you or your spouse to make the decision as to who gets the kids. the courts are supposed to make that decision, so if i were you, i would get a lawyer and quick before your spouse ends up with the kids permanently.
2006-09-19 15:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must get a lawyer and drag her butt to family court.
She has no right to keep the kids from you.
2006-09-19 15:36:00 · answer #11 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋