I agree that it would be selfish to have a child and not provide for it, but how is it selfish to just simply choose not to have kids?
2006-09-19 15:08:01 · 24 answers · asked by Martin523 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think it's selfish. I think it is better than having unwanted children! Only people who really want children, and who are willing to nurture them & provide for them should have them. Too many people who are not competent or capable go ahead.
The world would be a better place if more people would realize their limitations! Stick to your guns.
2006-09-19 15:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think its selfish to not want to have kids. Think about it, if you are an adult, work a 60+ hour week, and any free time you have you are either spending it with your spouse (if you have one) or working even more. When would you have time to have a child, raise it, provide all the love and attention that they need, and be there for then 24/7 like kids need? Another situation, what if you are living off government funding? Why should our taxes go to paying for you to have as many kids as you want? I know those are 2 extremes, but they are possible. I say if you don't want to have kids because you either don't care for kids, don't have the time, don't havethe money or whatever reason, then that is fine. Some peole aren't eant to have kids. Its not selfish at all.
2006-09-19 22:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Genny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what else you are doing with your life and your money. It is selfish only to be concerned with yourself. But if you decide not to have kids but spend a lot of spare time working in a soup kitchen, or tutoring disadvantaged kids, or giving a lot to charity, or trying in some other way to make the world a better place, then you are not selfish. You might even be doing more for humanity, than someone who just spends their time and money raising their own kids.
2006-09-19 22:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHO says it's selfish? Why do you care? Marriage and parenting should be the destiny of those who truly desire the commitment and ultimate joy of the union. Raising children is not for everyone so don't feel like it's selfish....after all, it's 2006, not 1910 and the world has plenty of propagating married couples who are doing a good job of overpopulating the World of today and into the future. Turn your energy in another direction.
2006-09-19 22:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Di 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
THANK YOU for asking! I do not have the desire to have children and I always think there is something wrong with me. I am anxious to see people's answers. I don't think the lifestyle of "parent" is suitable for everyone. You should want it with all your heart, and if you dont 100%, it's not for you. Until the day I feel I want it more than anything else, I will not make the step. Who knows, it may never happen to me. It's not a financial thing either, it's a missing desire. I'm so tired of everyone telling me my time is running out--------THEY can have the baby then! I do love kids though, just not for me. And I think it's very intrusive for people to think that the only reason you should be married is if you are going to have a family. It's an entirely separate adventure to be married and share your life with the person you truly love. To each his own.....Remember that people.
2006-09-19 22:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. T 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean selfish in regards to your parent's not getting to be grandparents? If you and your spouse agreed before you married that you neither wanted to have children, then that decision is up to the two of you. Having children is tough on couples who want children. It really isn't right to bring children into this world, that you don't want.
2006-09-19 22:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have children, you won't experience the self-less-ness needed to love and care for them. This is a massive rollercoaster/tsunami of emotions, worry, fear, love, terror, and happiness that can only be known if you love someone like you do a child. Experience this every moment of every day for about 30 years, and you will be many thousands of years past any selfish thought.
I don't have children myself, but I know the terror and excitement would have been worth it.
2006-09-19 22:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these times I think it's selfish to have one. If I was starting out now, I would not bring a child into this violent world. As it is now, I'm terrified of something happening to my daughter, and I pray like crazy when she's not home safe with me.
2006-09-19 22:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Blaze 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who the hell considers that?! I've known all of my life I didn't want kids. I've traveled the world on business & pleasure & had some very wild times. I love what I've accomplished & experienced. I AM the child! Also, it is people like me who can make a clear decision that should have kids. We are responsible & know what we want. I have 5 nieces & nephews who see me as auntie & mom...we are very close & on some subjects they're closer to me than their mothers. For those out there who end up with 1 to 10 kids (especially those that sadden you, disappoint you, & disrespect you) & wonder where their lives went.....Sorry! Oh...& all those wellfare families....where'd they come from (Duh)? Or as my mom would say "Don't they know what's causing it?" 12 & more kids on wellfare & mom keeps pumpin' 'em out to get more money! What a way to make a living! (Sorry...I get a little carried away).
2006-09-19 22:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by PAMELA G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not selfish. It's being an honest, responsible adult. Having children isn't for everyone. You probably do other things in life that are important to society. Maybe you couldn't do these things if you had kids. We need more people like you in this world. Stick to your guns.
2006-09-19 22:12:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋