I was all ready 25 then, but, seems nothing good happens with my life. I met this guy on phone, at first I hesitate talking to him because I find it cheap and nonsense. He insist, we became friends then lover. He told me that his marriage was not successful, but he has kids from his wife and with others. He doesn't have stable work, no house, no car, no everything, he's just being supported financially by his brother. He also told me that he has leukemia and only years left on his life to live. Knowing all this and his being kind and funny and intelegent, made me fall for him and trusted him. I even lied to my friends and parents just to be with him. I gave him my self and all that I can, not thinking of the consequences. I got pregnant, and when he knew it, he left. I suffered a lot, emotionally, physically and financially. I stood up and fight for my child and regain my self, now I'm thinking how's our life ahead. I dont know If I still able to love and trust men again.
2006-09-19 15:06:35 · 20 answers · asked by msgorgeous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As soon as you learn to rely on trusting yourself, and your inner strengths, you'll learn to give yourself another chance at another lasting relationship. What you don't allow to make you weak will in turn make you stronger. Hell yes, there are more chances for a single mom like you. Don't let having a child, or children hold you back. Any real man who is genuinely interested in you accepts the package that comes with you, so put on your discover face and go discover. I'm 64 years of age, and I'm still in the dating game only because I refuse to give up on self. You're far younger than myself, and you have so much more to live and to give. Keep on keeping on, believe in yourself, and good things will happen for you and your child. Go at it!
2006-09-19 15:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by tyrone n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This almost sounds like my brother Dre's ex.
Here's my advice: This bullshit has already done enough damage- forget about finding another man. Work on a career and furthering your education in order to move forward with your career.
Your child takes priority now, not your happiness. Your child needs a mother with a solid financial ground under her feet and the ability to provide encouragement, emotional support and at least some semblance of an intellect.
Learn to provide yourself instead of relying on somebody else to do it. You don't need another man in your life anyway, and it's the last thing in the world that your child needs. If you don't have the ability to do most of the things required of a parent by yourself then you don't have any business being a parent anyway.
If this is Dre's ex, send me an e-mail, the address is still the same.
2006-09-19 22:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you had to go through all this from a man. Men in general are not bad in nature. So of us are pretty damn good. I have been with my loving wife for 17 years 14 of which we have been married. Life has a way of dealing us hands that sometimes just don’t play out. Stay strong, there is true love out there and he is looking for you. The problem with love is that no matter how hard you look you just can’t seem to locate it. Don’t go out looking for it but let true love come to you. And not all men are bad same as not all women are bad.
2006-09-19 22:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a shame that guys will take advantage of people who are caring and nice like me and you. But don't worry...it will get better and you will be able to find someone to be happy with you and your child.
I was married at 18 for 6 years when he decided to leave me for my sister n law (haha there not together anymore!!) I have three beautiful kids with my exhusband....I was 24 when we seperated. Now I am 28 and just got married last month. It took some lookin and some heart break but I finally found someone who loves me and my children. Just remember when things are low to look at that beautiful child and remember that love is wonderful. I wish you all the luck and hang in there.
Lots of luck....:)
2006-09-19 22:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can trust men, but not men like that, and that's YOUR OWN fault. Just because you chose to be with some guy that you should've known would be a fugg up doesn't mean every guy is like that. Did you ever stop to think that if his life is as screwed up as you say it is, then it's for a reason?
I almost find it offensive that you're putting every other guy in the category he is in. This instance defenitely requires you to differentiate between normal, loving, caring men and this POS you're talking about.
2006-09-19 22:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Frank P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um not to be over critical but u've got to be kidding me u knew all this and u still slept with him or even trusted him with ur heart come on now. think first then fall i am sure there is a man out there for u but i am equally sure u should not think twice of the last one damn i personaly while not single anymore at 28 was looking for a good woman even possibly with kids cause i am not sure i can even have any so sure u will find a good one just think with ur head before u let him in ur pants
2006-09-19 22:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by JOHNATHAN A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Actually despite the fact that women are far more numerable then men it is so much easyier for a woman to find someone then for a man to. Lots of facts break this down but I will leave it at that you have double the chances of a single dad in your situation.
2006-09-19 22:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a big chance for you to find one. But this time, hopefully you would not allow yourself to be fooled. Experience somehow had taught you a lot. But to trust someone is for you to decide. Just make sure you don't commit the same mistakes. Best of luck.
2006-09-19 22:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like that.You cake care of your child and the rest will fall into place.Don't give up on love because if you do you will be alone the rest of your life.Trust will return in time but don't treat all men with mistrust it won't be fair to them or you someone could be the one.
2006-09-19 22:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounded like a loser from the get go.But that is the past. Dont worry there are plenty of men who dont mind children.I have dated plenty of girls with kids. You just need to find a guy that is kind enough to like you for who YOU are. Dont worry. things will work out for you. You are still young and there will be another guy to come along. Praying for you.
2006-09-19 22:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by efitzgrld 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋