Well i've been married for 2 1/2yrs & my husband has a job that takes all his time. It was good for the first six months then it went downhill from there, i had a few one nite stands but nothing serious until six months ago. I left the country but i still keep in contact with him & i'm not sure if to make things better with my husband or forget the other guy? The other guy is coming in the coming in the country to be with me early next year.
2006-09-19 14:28:35 · 13 answers · asked by â??â?¢â?¬â??? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you can be in love with 2 people at one time, but what you did was wrong. you let yourself fall for another guy even though you were already taken. your husband is obviously busting his *** to take care of you and youre cheating on him behind his back! it seems to me like you guys werent even ment to be together. he chose his job over you and you chose some other guy over him. what you really need to do is get divorced from your husband asap. i dont think too highly of your new boyfriend either, if he's willing to be with some woman who already has a husband.
2006-09-19 14:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can love two pple at the same time but not the same way. You have to think about which of the two men will be committed and loyal to you and you do the same and straighten up ur act and forget the one night stands.
Talk to ur husband and if he cant put his marriage first then move on.....marriage is making compromises from both.
Loose the other guy....make it work with ur husband and live happily every after.....how do u know what the other guy is upto atleast u know ur husband is working hard!!!!
Good luck
2006-09-19 14:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that you are in this perdicament but were you not aware of how time consuming your husbands job was before you married him? As for the affairs I dont judge anyone but I dont think that that was the way to deal with the situation. Everyone has their limits so I do understand. Does your husband even knoe about the other man? wOw! I dont think that you could love two individuals at once. You can love one and i guess have feel lust for the other one.I really do suggest that you really think about who you want to be with before the other man comes down. All said and done you are the one that has to live with all your actions so dont do to others what you wouldnt want done to you. Im not tryin to preach to you but you are MARRIED. Good luck in what you decide.
2006-09-19 14:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by spunkky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes, but you need to make a decision soon before the other guy comes into the country. With both of them readily available there could be a trouble lurking. For all involve make the decision and stick with it.
2006-09-19 14:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes why not, but I think what you are talking about is more then love. I do not think that you really love your husband or else you would have never cheated on him. A one night stand, is cheating. Also if he is always gone, maybe you two should not be together. I think you need to talk to your husband and also tell him about your one night stand.
2006-09-19 14:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love your husband, you need to work it out. If you don't feel the same as you once did about your husband, you should consider leaving him. You need to follow your heart on this one.
2006-09-19 14:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to think carefully lor... first of all, do you love your husband, is it because of him always on his job that you feel lonely.. you fall for the man could be he is there when you are lonely. so he has become someone that you can depend on for your emotional need. so you must be sure of yourself whether which one you like most..
2006-09-19 14:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so bascially you have a husband and ure dating a guy?????i mean i dont want to judge u or anything but dont u think that's mean?
2006-09-19 14:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by iranian gurl and proud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a tramp, do your husband a favor and leave. How dare he work so hard for you.
2006-09-19 14:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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sure you can. one is not the same as the other. so enjoy it cause one will win and one will lose its a matter of time ?/////smile
2006-09-19 15:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋