I ma married and have been for 3 years now an di don't love my husband anymore i knew this about 9 months ago but then i found out i was pregnant so i stayed with him well i ahd the baby and things are only getting worse between and on top of that i am in love iwth another man someone i have known for a long time we have no cheated on my husband but i know that i have very strong feelings for this other man what do i do about all this? he says that he doesn't mind i have a little boy that he can love my kid just as much as me....? help?
2006-09-19 14:17:09 · 26 answers · asked by toogie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would run from you as fast as I could. You sound like you fall in and out of love very easily. Why the heck did you get pregnant if you knew you didn't love him......now you get to hurt a child and a husband. You really know this other man has everything to do with why you are feeling the way you are. The old saying: Watch out what you wish for....you just might get it!
2006-09-19 14:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Pat (if that is your real name), don't criticize others for spelling when you don't even capitalize letters. That's worse than hypocrisy.
Secondly, you should divorce, unless your husband still loves you, then you should act less attached to him so he at least won't be shocked when you want a divorce. Announce to him that you don't love him and that you want a divorce at the very least a month later. Don't stay in contact with him, he will get angry or jealous when he finds out that you already had another person in mind. Also, keep your new relationship quiet for a while and don' get married right away. You need to be used to being around this person frequently, and the worst thing to do is to jump into a new marriage right after you were just divorced. Most of this is common sense, but many people would drop that in a situation like this. Hope I was a help!
2006-09-19 21:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by :: [ DARK GHOST ] :: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard situation you are in,but you have to really ask yourself y u got into the marriage in the first place, y did u fall in love with your husband in the first place?? May be you both dont make time for eachother and just because this other man is giving u the attention u want,you think you will be better off with him, and may be u will.
If all fails and u still want to get out of the marriage,its best u talk to your husband as soon as possible and move on so he can move on too.
What if this man doest turn out to be the right one,what will u do?? will u walk out on him for someone too??? I just want u to think and may be give ur marriage all u have b4 u move on.......at the end of the day....if your not happy you cant make ur partner happy nor ur baby.
Good luck and pray that u make the right decision!!!!
2006-09-19 21:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a serious step - does your husband feel the same way - you need to ask. If he does then you can get a divorce, but getting a divorce is not a smooth road - your husband might fight for custody of the child and if it is known that you have another man in the background it could be dicey for you. Think it out before acting.
2006-09-19 22:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Love is something you choose to do. You wake up everyday and choose to love someone. That is just how it is. Love is like any emotion, you can control it even though it may be hard.
2) If you choose not to try to love him or make it work let him know
3) DONT CHEAT you could lose custody of your child, plus crimes of the heart are the WORST!!! Just tell him, leave him then divorce him. Then do as you please.
4) This man probably loves you, respect him even if you don't love him. Give him a chance. Try to work it out.
2006-09-19 21:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by PilotTim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you shpuld just follow your heart and talk to your husband about this and see how he feels on this. If he says that he does not feel comfortable with another man raising his son then youre going to have to stick it out, and if he says that he thinks ya'll should get a divorce because of the way things have been going than what better way to be with the man you love. Follow your heart. And it will steer you in the right path.
2006-09-19 21:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by jigglet92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be jumping from the frying pan into the fire. The grass is always greener on the other side, and all the rest of those little sayings that are soooo true and we wish that they were not. That said, every man deserves a wife who loves him. Tell him so, and let him go so he can indeed find a lady who will love him.
2006-09-19 21:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a very rocky road I been their done that the divorce thing and It took me 2 years after I filed for my divorce for me to find my one guy who makes me really happy and he accepted the fact I had kids that came with me as a package deal, and I accepted the fact he had kids he came as a packaged deal and we are so happy we are getting married in 1 year and 8 months from now
2006-09-19 21:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like honesty is the best policy in this type of situation. If you continue in this relationship then it is going to hurt your child. It is already hurting you and your husband. He probably knows that you don't love him anymore and that it is probably someone else so why not come clean with it. You will be happier in the end. Well good luck!
2006-09-19 21:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me be bruttally honest with you, because that seems to be what you need right now. my suggestion is this: GET YOUR PRIORITIES STRAIGHT!. baby first, you second, some guy you got the hots for last.
you're unhappilly married and you're pregnant. figure out what to do with your marriage and how to take care of your baby first. i would think having some affair with some guy who promises you the world right now should be last thing that you should not be your main concern. you got other things to worry about. just my two cents.
2006-09-19 21:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by tom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋