I am curious about my sister (this is not sexual) HELP!!!?

Question

My sister has beed sooooo nasty to me all my life. She is 18, and I am 16. This is not usual sibling fighting. Just before she was at the sink, washing her hands, and I was waiting behind her. She unknowingly stepped back into me, and stepped on my foot. No harm to her, and her fault. I appologised, and she starts screaming at the top of her lungs about how I am ruining her like, and what a little a$$hole I am, etc. This nice of her compared to usual. I just don't get it. I put up with this all my life, even as a small child. She is most hateful to me after I do something nice for her. I could go on, but this is the basics. I was looing for some opinions. I just made this box, and don't even remember the password, so I will not be able to give details.

OH, and she is nasty to many people. I hate being in public with her, because if someone even looks at her she starts screaming and namecalling. Most people look at me like I am white trash just for being with her when she starts.

Answer 1

You sister suffers from serious premenstrual tension and needs your parents to take her to a doctor that specializes in this disorder. It is not your fault and you are not ruining her life. If your parents adopted a kid your age today...eventually she would treat that kid the same. Avoid her and insist that your parents do something about this. It is not your job to fix this problem , you are your sisters' victim

Answer 2

This is a tough one. Sibling rivalries are never easy to deal with, especially at your ages (you can both think for yourselves). The important thing is that you want to make it better and that's all it really takes. I think that one day you should just sit down and have a talk with your sister. Pick a day when you know she won't be mad at you, maybe even a day when she's really happy about something. Sit down with her and just tell her that you love her and you just want to let her know that it really hurts your feelings when she talks to you that way. Then tell her that if there is anything that she has to talk to you about, she can tell you, your parents or anyone she likes. The important thing is not to come off as pissed off about the past, but trying to help for the future. A good technique they teach you in peer counseling is to use words like "It hurts my feelings when you do this..." rather than "You always do this and it hurts my feelings..." In the first, you are telling her how you feel and in the second you would be blaming her for the way you feel. They are worded differently but the second comes out as threatening.

Now there could also be deeper issues here as shown by your sister's rage at complete strangers for small things. To be honest, my girlfriend can get pretty worked up about other people's flaws pretty easily as well, so that may be her own problem. But family is family. If you have done nothing to her to provoke this kind of treatment, she may be displacing feelings about something else onto you. Now this rage could have come from anything - from stress at school to rape. I don't want to suggest anything because I don't know enough about you or your sister, but I would suggest talking to her first. If things don't get better, try talking to your parents. Make sure that if you go that route that you still end up talking to her yourself. You don't want her to think you're a "tattle-tail". I know you guys are 16 or over but sometimes we can all be pretty immature. Especially when siblings are involved ;)

Answer 3

Sounds like your sister needs some help. She is 18 and she acts like that? Wow, she has a lot of growing up to do. My 4 year old brother is more mature than that. You need to tell her how it is, don't let her walk all over you anymore. Even if she is your sister, she has no right to treat you like that. Have you told your parents how she treats you? If any of my siblings acted like that towards me I would slap them. If she is yelling out at random people then maybe she has Turrett's Syndrome. Try and talk with her about this.

Answer 4

You can't pick your relatives. Maybe she resents you for some reason. Often one sibling will think the other gets more attention from the parents. Maybe she just doesn't like you. Sounds like a pretty rough person. Don't bother trying to be nice to her she's a physco.

Answer 5

wow, i can't imagine what your going through right now...i'm 16 too and i can't imagine haveing a sister be like that to me and can't believe how mean she is to you...she has no right to do that...she must be very jealous of you...i feel so bad for you...and i have no idea why she would yell at random people....maybe it's not something she can control...no offense to her but maybe she has a disease that she can't control like bipolar disorder...if she does then she is going to need help...i hope everything works out

Answer 6

Siblings experimenting isn't unusual, yet i imagine it truly is many times at youthful a lengthy time period than you 2. regrettably, at your age there ought to correctly be severe consequences if human beings stumbled on out. also bear in mind that it truly is really ordinary to rigidity a youthful human being into doing some thing they don't desire, inspite of out attempting. How ought to you sense in case you probably did some thing such as her and later stumbled on out she did not opt to be changed into afraid? in no way the a lot less, i do not imagine there is a few thing basically incorrect with what you advise, yet for both between the above reason it truly is not any longer an fairly solid idea in practice.

Answer 7

thats just how older sisters/brothers r,well at least in my point of view.im the oldest and im kinda sorta like that wit my lil sibblings.oh and im just 14 yrs old imagine how bad i will get by the time im 18.but i do it cuz my sibblings r annoying.

Answer 8

People who act like them, hate themselves. She will (eventually and hopefully) realize what a royal b**** she is and make amends. Until then, be a loving brother and try not to go anywhere in public with her.

Oh..have you ever asked her why she is evil to you??

Answer 9

Your sister has an anger problem and needs help. She might be depressed, or something bothering her. Tell you parents or guardian. you may suggest on line counselling if she doesn't want to get help elsewhere.

Answer 10

well what i would do is go strait to my parents. Ask them if anythign weird in your sisters personal life is going on, its not being nosey its being concerned. if they dont no ask them to ask her considering she probably wont talk to you. the basics of figuring this out is discovering the problem.