how will i handle this lady?

Question

my daughters boyfriends mum is so rude and judgemental of everything and since their relationship has progressed she tends to ring and have a chat and then starts aurgments by twisting the truth and starting aurgments how am i giong to handle this without offending her and at the same time not upseting the boyfriend because his mums so rude

Answer 1

She can only argue if you allow her. Simply say yes or no or I disagree or I agree, if she doesn't like those answers just say, well, I really don't feel like going into it because it could cause problems. Then if she still wants to complain, just lay down the phone or hang up.

The phone if there for your convenience, not hers. Just realize that when you speak to her, that's just the way she is and allow for her negativism. Don't agree with her, but do try not to let it get you down, she the negative one, not you.

Just get caller I.D., if you can, and if you don't feel like "putting up with her" don't answer. : ))

Answer 2

If she is rude but you don't want to offend your daughter's boyfriend, just find a reason to ring off. Tell her you are just leaving or something. I don't remember if there is "caller ID" in the UK, but if so, just check it to see who is calling and don't answer. I personally think caller ID is the best thing ever invented. You're right though, that there is no point getting into arguments. What truth is she twisting though? If its to do with your daughter and her son, the situation is likely not to improve, though you can't change it.

Answer 3

You should just tell her to back the he** off and stop trying to protect her son because he can do whatever the he** he wants without needing her permission. And then tell her that if she is rude to you any longer you will kick her a** and knock all the crap out her mouth. Either that or get a restraining order against her stating that she cannot talk to you or come near you or your daughter or your property, and that if she sees you she cannot acknowledge you in any way shape or form. Also tells her that if she uses her son to get in contact with you, you will have a restraining order put on him too. So that none of her family can come in contact with any of your family. Thats the way to go to get what you want.

Answer 4

I am happy to say that you are so lucky. You are brought up with good mannerism, consideration for others, realistic etc. Some are not as fortunate or educated as others. Each of us are brought up in different environment that affects own personality, likings, tastes etc. You can't change another person personality or behavior but to accept them as they are. Therefore, in your situation, just leave your daughter and his bf to handle their life (if they every get married so be it). You don't needed any confrontation with this lady if you don't want to mess up anything. So stay cool and be tolerance. Anything that doesn't sounds right, just let it pass.

Answer 5

My mom is in your shoes also about my boyfriends mother.....you aint seen nothin yet! LOL if youlook up ''rude'' in the dictionary, her picture will be the definition! She has put my family, boyfriend and I through SOOOOO much.

I could use more answers to this Q about my bf by the way if you dont mind :)
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqajpHAfRcF7b0VI0KOHQbvsy6IX?qid=20060919133457AAFmlcf

Answer 6

i ought to tell the teen "i do no longer understand who had set off off the fireplace crackers" and if he retains to annoy me, I tell my boyfriend to kick his butt! LOL, no no longer truly, i ought to easily forget with reference to the teen, if he does no longer trust me, then it truly is his situation, no longer mines. =P

Answer 7

You may want to politely tell her that you'd rather not discuss the relationship between the "kids"- let her know that you feel it is their personal business. If that doesn't shut her down, say it again, FIRMLY!

Answer 8

Just tell her! I can't keep getting into arguements with you, it doesn't matter what I say it seems to upset you. So it would be best if she doesn't call anymore. Or just stop taking her phone calls

Answer 9

tell your daughter he is not worth it, if your daughter isn't good enough for her son them here family isn't good enough for your, people like that are controlling and it will only progress,Your seeing the red flags point them out to her.

Answer 10

When you reach her age then you can chatter box with her.