I get home from work and all he wants to do is go out with is parents when all I wanna do is spend some time with him. He was off work today he had all day! I just dont get it!
2006-09-19 13:51:54 · 18 answers · asked by tx80sgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well he is married to me not them! I think he would take me into consideration first!
2006-09-19 13:55:29 · update #1
i thought marriage was for mature men... hmm guess i was wrong
2006-09-19 14:00:39 · update #2
maybe he is afraid to be alone with you. Ask him why he feels the need to spend all his time with his parents.
2006-09-19 13:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right he married you not THEM!
When he married you, you became his family and everyone else should come second well, except for any children you may have.
If he wasn't ready to leave his mom's teet he should never have even started dating you.
You need to let him know that you are his wife and he chose to marry you and that you are being disrespected by him and also your marriage.
It is okay to visit the parents once in a while, but when it is digging into your personal time, then it is a problem he is creating also, why are his parents not telling him about the problem he is creating. It's not like they don't see what is going on.
I don't mean to sound harsh,because he is your husband and a certain degree of respect should be shown by all here, but I have chosen my wife over my parents/family in situation where it was inappropriate by them trying to disturb my marriage and his parents are doing this by not telling him to spend time and free time of all things with his wife.
I wish you well
2006-09-19 21:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE TO SET UP A SCHEDULE FOR HIM TO FOLLOW...DO NOT MAKE THIS AN ISSUE...HIS PARENTS OR YOU...JUST SET UP THE SCHEDULE SO THAT IT WILL
ACCOMMODATE YOUR TIME BEING ALONE WITH HIM! GET CREATIVE...AND DO SHARE HIM WITH HIS PARENTS TOO! BUT THIS SCHEDULE WILL HAVE TO EXCLUDE THEM TO SOME DEGREE...BUT DON'T LET IT BECOME THE FOCAL POINT...KEEP THE SCHEDULE THE FOCUS POINT!
FOR INSTANCE...When he has the full day off...and you do work
that day...have it to where he has to meet you or something like that. And if you just want him to be alone with you at home...Take a closer look at his parent's schedule and do your best to avoid
it and intercept it before it can take root to include your hubby all the time. But do remember you do have to share! Marriage is a gift from God...and every gift comes with a JOB...and if you and your husband don't work at your marriage like it is a job...then you will not get any more out of it than you put into it! Put God first in your life and God will bless you and your marriage!
2006-09-19 21:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he wants to make love to youtell him that he should go to his parents'. When he starts putting in the time with you that he spends with them then he can have the husbandly privilidges. Unfortunately it sounds like you married a mama's boy. Give him a chance to change and if there isn't marked improvement start filing for divorce before real kids enter the picture.
2006-09-19 21:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want to go with them? Do they buy him things? It must be for the free meals, and whatever else they are buying him. He has a problem, for sure! You are going to have to find it in you to tell him that he is hurting YOU by this behavior, and hurting your marriage. If he won't stop this, then I don't know what you can do besides either go with them ( to see what is up), OR tell him to go live with his parents till he can LET GO OF MOMMY's APRON STRINGS!
2006-09-19 21:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him to his parents and have some fun. See why he likes hanging with them so much....maybe their great and you just might enjoy yourself too.
Think of it this way...One less dinner to cook.
All you can do is sit down with him and tell him how you would like more time alone with him and make specific days to visit his folks. It's hard, but it will get better. Make the best of it.
2006-09-19 21:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living with his parents, maybe he feels an indebtedness to them. Do his parents invite you to go along? Start showing up (if you know where they are) and enjoy the fun. Go see your parents for a few days.
2006-09-19 21:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess kids will do whatever you allow them to do.And marriage is for any man-mature or not-who can find someone who will pick them.
2006-09-19 21:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel left out , I know what thats like unfortunatly it wont chenge until YOU do something like make it so when he is home that you sre gone and he never see's you either.
2006-09-19 20:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by alyson1hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just cares for his parents!!!!! And likes to spend time with them!!!! Are we jealous?
2006-09-19 20:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by hippiechic35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋