What is a good way to get my boyfriend to stay with me more often?

Question

we have been together for 2 years.. in the begining he always wanted to stay here. he would stay here everynight if he could. but now he only stays here once a week. I am living with my father right now due to money problems and family issues, but I am also looking into buying my own place. I would like for him to stay here more and he says the reason why he hasn't is because I Bi*ch too much. I know he's not cheatin on me. I trust him with all my heart. he mostly stays home and plays online poker, or his xbox360. and this one friend of his is at his house more then I am.. I just need some advice..

Answer 1

Maybe it's not because you *****, maybe it's because you are having to stay with your parents right now until you get back on your feet and he just feels uncomfortable, i know i would if i was a guy. and as most men, he's probably just using that you ***** as an excuse!

Answer 2

Sounds like HE already answered the question FOR you. I mean, don't get me wrong, sweetie. "You b!t
1. "Familiarity breeds contempt." Everyone needs room to breathe. Especially, from a cramped environment. Hell, you sound like u need some room 2 breath YOURself: a) living with your father? b) money problems? c) family issues? If he didn't really care 4 u, he probably wouldn't even come around once a week! :-)

2. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." I don't think you'd even ask the question if u weren't an open-minded young lady, so I'm going to share something with you that I know a lot of women wouldn't get:

The solution is, parodoxically, NOT in trying to get him to stay with you MORE. It's in finding OTHER sources of happiness, recreation and tranquility BESIDES him. I mean, REALLY occupy your thoughts with time- and energy-consuming activities that will feed your spirit... not just some temporary-distraction-sh!+ or some ol' cut-off-your-nose-to-spite-your-face, I'll-show-him-sh!+.

He sounds like he truly cares for you but that he may just feel suffocated at times- as we guys sometimes do. However, with someone we truly care about, as soon as we get the space we need, we are drawn right back like a magnet.

Give yourSELF room to breathe & u will simultaneously give HIM room to breathe. You will both value the time you DO spend together more. It's a perfectly cosmic compromise: YOU'll feel less lonely during the times that he's NOT around; and HE'LL long to BE with you more often.

-P.S. PUHlease, BOTH of you, when you DO spend time together... As much as possible, try to do it AWAY from that HOME that just seems to be inFESTED with issues ;-)

Best of luck, sweetie. I'm sure u can work it out!

Answer 3

You say you're living with your father, and your father is the man of the house. Your boyfriend does not feel comfortable with this arrangement, because after all you're adults. But when adults return to their parents home, a shift occurs, and the parent-child dynamics resume. Your boyfriend doesn't understand, himself, what is bothering him, and even if he did, how would he let you know he is uncomfortable, without seeming to diss your Dad. So, if I were you, I would get my act together as quickly as possible, so you and boyfriend can resume a more adult relationship. Be patient with him, and let him know you're working on getting on your own again, and thank him for his patience. He may not come around more, but he'll find some other way to let you know that he's grateful you understand the situation. Good luck.

Answer 4

Oh my gosh...I swear to you, you sound word for word just like me in every previous relationship I have been in. Seriously, the best thing to do is to get rid of him and be with someone that does want to be with you. I know you probably aren't going to do that, b/c I wouldn't have done that if someone had told me to, but that is the only way you are going to be happy. Now I am with someone that actually does like spending time with me and I'm happier than I've ever been.
Just remember: If a guy says that you bi*ch too much, it's his fault for giving you so many things too bi*ch about.
Tell him to stop being ungreatful and taking you for granted and you won't have to bi*ch anymore!

Answer 5

Try talking to him, however, trust that if he says that you b@#$% to much, then odds are, it's the truth. Never ignore you mate when he tells you how he feels. Secondly the fact that you do stay at home with your father may also be an issue. Just try not to force him to stay if he's not willing. I learned this from experience.

Answer 6

One of the signals that he's not so enamored of you as he was is that he spends less time with you. In addition, he's told you clearly why he isn't staying with you so much. My advice is, first, figure out why you didn't (or don't) see the very clear signs he's sending. Second, figure out why you do what it is that he doesn't like. Much as you won't want to hear this, "The fault, dear Brutus, is in ourselves, not in the stars." (nor the guy)

Answer 7

Can you go to his place sometimes? If yes try that and then you will see him more. If not, then just say you would like to feel more important than his xbox 360 and poker.

Answer 8

fine something else to do.
meet friends, go to the library, take classes, have a quality time with your dad.
Remember you make choices for your life.
Give him some time to consider your relationship while doing your own things.
If he sees how confident you are, the better chance that he'll come alone more aft en.

Answer 9

Guys are pretty simple. Grab his penis and don't let go. If he's getting the sex he needs, you can control him. If he isn't, whoever is grabbing his penis is the one controlling him. Sheeesh. I should be getting paid for this advise!

Answer 10

Just tell him.