He cheated on me, called me a liar when I said that I wasn't lying, said that he didn't know me and that if he did then he'd believe me...he know knows the truth and he hasn't apologised sowhy do I still love him? Why do I want him back? Why has he changed? Do I love the "old" him?
2006-09-19 13:28:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's professionally called the Stockholm syndrome.. where the victim sympathizes with the victimizer... It's a brainwashing technique, used primarely to control..
He became like a drug to you, it hurts you but you can't give up! You need serious therapy and a good dose of self esteem... You need closure, and to realize who you are, and that you are an individual and not a satelite, dependent on him for affection or anything else.
Ok? I know I have been there. For me it was mostly a pride issue. I didn't want to let him go becasue it meant that I failed... Well... somebody shook me up at that point, and now I speak from experience. There's so many more guys out there that deserve a good loving woman like you, don't waste your best on a leech!
2006-09-19 19:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant help who you love u love him because of the old him it hurts so much when someone you love changes for no reason. i went through a bad time with my boyfriend i thought hed never change but he has i gave him a chance and im glad i did we are so happy now we have a child and our own house its great after he cheated on me i gave him a second chance and it worked. give him one last chance if hes still hurting you let him go and move on im sure you will find someone. good luck
2006-09-20 06:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by REBEKAH O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, we're like that. We love someone very much even though he/she has hurt us deeply.
Since he has chosen to hurt you so bad, he probably wants you to know that he doesn't want you anymore. You're confused, you're upset, I totally understand. If he has changed, then i say it's pointless searching the "old" him. You can still love the "old" him, but sadly, it isn't worth it.
Be upset for all you want now, but don't forget to stand up on your own and live life strongly again. That's the way of life.
2006-09-19 20:36:24 · answer #3 · answered by gummy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your being a mug to your self in believeing you love him get rid and ill bet in 3 months time when you move on youll wonder what the blazes all the crying about him was for, youll only then truley see him for what he is ,a lying cheating controling posessive idiot who dosent realise what a good thing he had in you as a person , your gain his loss tough , move on girl it will be the best thing you could ever do and get the happiness you truley deserve .
2006-09-19 20:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by a1ways_de1_lorri_2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just want what you can't have, and if he has done all those things to you get over him and move on, sorry to be blunt but if he did really love you cheating and calling you a liar would never have entered his head 4get him and move on
2006-09-23 10:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not him you love. You love the idea of being with someone and so forth.
And you can have it if you give someone worthy a go but not your cheating lying ex boyfriend.
2006-09-19 20:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You still love him because love is an emotion that can't be turned on and off like a light switch. When you realize its over you'll move on. I hope. Good luck.
2006-09-19 20:44:18 · answer #7 · answered by chocollate_75 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually, girls have to get highly emotionally attached to a guy, this makes girls breaking up much harder. Guys just like the girl before they want to take large steps towards getting a girl, girls want to take small steps, once they get to the point where they are boyfriend/girlfriend, the girl attaches herself tons to the guy, which makes it hard for a girl to forget. or that's my theory.
2006-09-19 20:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by The Pokemaniac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because your scared of being alone...if he calls you a liar when you know your telling the truth then it's him who needs a reality check....dont forgive him until he can show you that he's sorry...if he says he dont know you then why are you with him....dump him, it's obvious he's making you unhappy....kill the sadness and move on
2006-09-19 22:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make your mind up on this one, but don't get bogged down with self pity
2006-09-26 03:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by scott j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋