Married for 6 years still "working out the kinks" from past problems, have a daughter already. We are not getting any younger and I want another baby and he is saying if I want one he does too. I told him I don't want to make the decision alone that I need his input and he says if it will make me happy then yes or he says he goes back and forth with wanting another.. what do you guys think?
2006-09-19 13:26:00 · 14 answers · asked by bababoey24 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Only you know that. But if your marriage is still bumpy and he only wants one to make you happy - well, I wouldn't say that is a great reason to have a kid, would you?
2006-09-19 13:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby is a huge responsibility. If you both think you are ready for another, then go for it. Doubt means don't, so if you are having doubts, you may want to wait.
Do what I heard on Dr. Phil, live with the decision for one week to have a baby, then live with the decision for a week not to have a baby, that might help guide your decision. The longer you wait, the harder it could be to get pregnant.
Maybe think about how it was having your first child, all of the things you had to do, wake up early, crying, diapers, etc.
2006-09-19 20:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit tricky. I think you should deal with your past problems before you bring another life into this world, as this could make your situation worse with added pressures and stress. Also, I think you both need to be sure about this decision and be consistent. He shouldn't want a child because you want one, he should want a child because he wants one, not just to make you happy. Hope everything works out...
2006-09-19 20:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by empressandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think You & Your Husband need 2 sit down & work out your problems before you bring another baby into this world plus if you want another baby & he does why ask us just do it.Good Luck
2006-09-19 20:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait to make sure that your marriage is ok before you decide to have another child. Kids are great, but being a single mom is not easy. And it's never too late... there's always adoption to consider.
2006-09-19 20:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop using birth control and just wait and see if you get pregnant, try not to think about it too much, go with the flow and what will be will be. If you can afford another child I think that it would be good for your family.
2006-09-19 20:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, all marriages are bumpy, life is bumpy, children are forever(hopefully) Children are a gift from GOD. My current wife and I lost our only child together to miscarriage. I bought the child a teddy bear and was never able to give it to our child. That was in 1992.
2006-09-19 20:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men only worry about money when it comes to kids so if he says it's up to you then basically he's saying he's behind you and he wouldn't mind another one either. If you are a SAHM then it would be more up to you than him. You are the one who has to deal with them more than he will.
2006-09-19 20:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by slingnmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up, you want another kid and you want to work out whatever problems you are having. Ask him if he wants to extend his family with you or if you are just wasting your time.
2006-09-19 20:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!!!
My Husband and I have twin boys and he doesn't want anymore. Their is no way to compromise on that.
If he doesn't care either way then do it.
I'm jealous...lol
2006-09-19 20:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋