My husband is constantly angry. I have made every excuse for him that I can....I would say that it is his job but he had yhe whole summer off and was still angry. I want to try counseling before I call it quits and I really wish things could change. What else can I do??
Also, should I yell back at him when he yells at me or just ignore him?
2006-09-19 13:25:06 · 15 answers · asked by zaeli22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pray... thats the only thing i know for sure works so thats the only thing i can tell you.
2006-09-19 13:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an anger management problem, and I am on medication for it. My wife would not go to counseling with me, but I went to the doctor at the VA clinic and she prescribed medication for me. If I do not take it everyday, my wife knows it and so do I.
Has your husband served in the military? If so, was he involved in any type of war?
Myself, I would get mad and throw things in the garage, and cuss out loud where the whole neighborhood could hear me.
Look up anger management, and it lists several things that can be done.
Please discuss anger management with him, and discuss it without any anger involved. I wish you and him the very best.
Richard
2006-09-19 20:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my advice is to step back do not yell back at him this will just escalate things...anger breeds more anger. Men handle depression differently than women, often a depressed male will be very agitated and angry this is the way a lot of men deal with being depressed. Continue to tell him you are concerned about him, care for him, and that seeing him this way is very hard for you..ie its hard to be close to him and its affecting your intimacy, you want things to change...then let it go and take care of yourself and your own happiness, you can only change the way you deal with it a person will only change if they choose it you have to own your own happiness and detach from him, sometimes this helps the other person, but maybe the rel'p might end you have to focus on caring for yourself and not think about outcome this will be best for both...good luck :)
2006-09-19 20:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie-Hay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"A sharp tongue is the only edged tool that grows sharper with constant use"
In other words, "He aint never gonna change"
It is probably in his blood. He is simply not a cool person. I know the type. He is a borderline sociopath. .
My mother is almost eighty and she is still a b i t c h. She always was.
He is a male b i t c h. and you will never change him.
The whole summer? This guy is sick! Divorce him now before he drives you crazy. Life is too short. Relationships are supposed to be smooth running with a few bumps. You have too many bumps!
Good luck!
2006-09-19 20:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to get him help. Please try counseling-anger management is something that can be achieved. Yelling back at him is not going to help the situation because it will probably make him more angry. Get help as soon as you can so that you two can enjoy each other again. Good luck.
2006-09-19 20:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Waiting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger management problem??? Bull. Your hubby is a spoiled punk. I'd bet he has been blowing up all along, probably since he was six. Calling silly behavior by a different name changes nothing. He just blows up, because he wants to. Stop making excuses for his silliness. Tell the big baby you've had enough. He straightens up, or you will leave. Then, do it. Don't let him control you by acting up or by tantrums.
2006-09-19 22:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FOOD ALLERGIES....TAKE HIM TO A SPECIALIST AND TEST HIM FOR FOOD ALLERGIES...SOME FOODS SET PEOPLE OFF...EVEN SOME VITAMINS! ONCE THIS IS TAKEN CARE OF AND HE AVOIDS CERTAIN FOODS PERHAPS COUNSELING WILL HELP BUT NOT MOST LIKELY! COUNSELING FOR ANGER IS THE TOUGHEST TYPE OF COUNSELING! MARRIAGE IS A WONDERFUL GIFT FROM GOD...HE HAS GIVEN YOU THE JOB OF BEING MARRIED...IF YOU WILL BOTH SEE YOUR MARRIAGE AS A JOB AND BE THE BEST AT BEING GOOD TO ONE ANOTHER AND LOVING ONE ANOTHER AND BE THE BEST MARRIED COUPLE ON EARTH ...IF THIS WERE TO BECOME YOUR GOAL AS A COUPLE....YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS! PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR LIFE AND HE WILL BLESS YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE! YOU AS A WIFE CAN SEEK COUNSELING YOURSELF...GET A MALE COUNSELOR...NOT A FEMALE...YOUR IN NEED OF INSIGHT HERE ABOUT YOUR HUBBY AND HOW TO AVOID AND NOT TRIGGER HIS ANGER
BUTTONS...I'M NOT SAYING YOU ARE DOING THIS BUT A MALE MARRIAGE COUNSELOR CAN GIVE YOU INSIGHT ABOUT MEN...AND DO BE SURE HE IS NOT GAY!
2006-09-19 20:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling back at him is not the answer. Getting him some help is. Do you go to church? I know that going to church and believing in God and having a strong Faith in God helps. Do you have anyone you can talk to? A pastor maybe? But definitely get him some help. There is something really bothering him that he needs to get out.
2006-09-19 21:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by ajsad36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling will get you nowhere except maybe physical violence. Have you tried telling him what your thinking when he start yelling? Let him know that you can't go on living this way and if he's a smart guy he will realize that he may loose you if he doesn't change his ways.
2006-09-19 20:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine24/7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do little to nothing. HE needs to acknowledge that he has a problem and then he needs to seek counseling to deal with it. If he's not willing, then get out. You will be much safer. If you have any kids they will be safer too.
2006-09-19 20:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to couseling--even if you have to go alone. They will help you decide how best to deal with him.
My sister's hubby just graduated from an anger management class, and I can see him trying so hard to overcome his issues.
It is NOT uncommon for men.
God bless you & guide you.
2006-09-19 20:29:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋