My daughter is KICKING BOYS between the legs!!!?

Question

I am a mother of a 15 year old girl. I was cleaning her room and I saw her diaries, I decided to take a little peek, and I discovered something shocking and disturbing, for what I can tell she have being kicking boys between the legs at least from the third grade until now! I had no idea! Her diary is full of stories about it. And the detail, names and dates, everything is registered. By her words I really can tell she loves it, and is almost like a hobby! She describes the boy’s physical and emotional suffering, and how hilarious she thinks it is and that sometimes….she gets wet!!! And that she and her girlfriends keep score!!!, and the different ways to do it, and that boys never hit back and how funny she thinks that is. I feel very sorry for the kids. Now that she is older, most of the times she pretends to be angry at something they did, she makes up excuses. I just could not continue to read anymore, it makes me want to cry.

She always seemed to me like a very sweet little girl. How am I going to tell my husband something like this? He is always telling how proud he is of his “little girl”!
I am not thinking straight, I need help here. Anyone had this problem before?

choyryu:
When I was reading her diary I felt guilty but not anymore. To keep it short this is what I told her: A kid had to go to the Doctor and he told his mother what you have being doing and where do you live. It is sexual abuse and you can stop them from making babies or lose a testicle, you can be expelled from school or even go to a “boot camp”. You should only do it if you are all alone and a freak is trying to rape you or kill you. I could tell she was sorry but she was making stupid excuses like “I was just kidding” and “other girls do it”, until her Dad walked into the room; she stopped talking, her face turned very red and then started crying. Boys hate to hurt girls, but the first kid she kicked should had beaten her up after recovering, that way she would never do it again, and the other girls would be afraid too.

Answer 1

Jesus Chirst and yes, I'm using the Lord's name in vain but in this case, it's warranted. Most people are thinking and talking about this little girl but what about the guys she's been de-manning. And especially that comment, it will pass, so we should just wait it out. I'm a guy but the response here are just horrible and all of you women and females should be ashame of yourself for not condemning her more. Being understanding in this situation will result in more guys not only feeling physical pain but emotional trauma as well. If the roles were reversed and this was about a boy who for years have been touching girls in a private area or just hitting them, there would have been outrage and calls for a lynch for these exact same responders.

The girls needs help and she needs it now. Tell the father and take her to a physictrist. Do not wait until someone reports her or hurts her. By that time, we don't know how many more guys have suffered.

Answer 2

Someone on here said all girls do that to flirt when they're young? That's not true. All girls don't do that at all.

If she were six it may be a little less disturbing, but at her age I think its very disturbing. Even if you talk to her and convince her to stop and that it isn't funny, you still have the knowledge that she is someone who apparently got joy out of such an activity. If she did it once for some reason and thought it was funny with the friends, even that would be different. This is very, very, serious; and I can't help but think she needs a psychiatrist to get to the bottom of why she is capable of being so mean and why she thinks it funny.

With all due respect, I suppose she could be awfully, awfully, immature in the type of brain development that involves empathy; but even if that's the case, you need a psychiatrist to diagnose it and figure out what to do about it.

One question: Is there any chance she's making it up just because kids make up ridiculous stuff if they have something going with a friend that they all enjoy? Kids make up the most bizarre stuff.

If she were doing it and not documenting it you could just assume she's immature and doesn't realize how serious it is. Its the documenting of it that proves she knows how bad it is, and its the documenting it that is most worrisome. I don't blame you for wanting to cry.

Aside from contacting a mental health professional, I think you should have her sit down and hear you out. You should talk to her about how serious it is. Show her the answer someone on here gave with regard to how damaging and bad what she's doing is. Tell her that even if, for some bizarre reason, she likes doing that; she needs to stop. It could get back to the parents of one of these boys, and if it does they could press charges against her for assault. I'd go through her room and take out every piece of paper or notes or whatever else she has in there, and have her do her homework out where she can be seen.

Tell her if someone presses charges, and the police get involved, they'll go down to the school and start asking questions; and they're going to find out that she's doing this for fun; and she could end up in some kind of detention facility or mental health facility. I can tell you if it were my son I'd press charges just as soon as look at her.

As long as her father isn't the type who'd beat her up you have to tell him. You can't go through this problem alone because its not an easy one.

I know how awful this situation has to be for you, and I can imagine how difficult it could be for you to address it; but if you don't, she may turn into someone who does worse later. I wonder if there's any chance she was nasty enough when she was little that boys started hating her, and maybe she developed some kind of anger toward them because of that.....just a thought. If she's being truthful about getting aroused at hurting someone that, alone, tells you there's something very serious.

Good luck. I know you didn't need me to put in my two-cents about how awful this is; but I wanted to offer some feedback because I can imagine how alone you must feel right now. I figured honest was what you were probably looking for, regardless of whether or not you give any weight to what people on here say.

Answer 3

You need to sit down with her and tell her that you have had some complaints about her kicking boys in the privates. Then explain to her that one day those boys are going to need those privates to help produce children of their own. However, if she keeps kicking them there they may not be able to. If that doesn't work ground her until she stops. Take away everything from her phone, tv, radio, computer, etc. Good luck mom. By the way just tell dad the truth. It will hurt his ego but he may have his own suggestions on the situation. Especially considering he is a male.

Answer 4

Frankly, i don't believe you.

Here's why:
This is very private information about your daughter. This is a very public forum where people of all ages visit and who now would have access to highly intimate details about your daughter.

There doesn't seem to be a question attached to this. If there was, it would be more suitable for a mature, responsible parent to speak with a trained professional about possible options of action as this could turn into a legal matters if one of the boy's decides to sue.

By posting this question here, it would have opened you up to legal liability as in the event one of these boys reads it, regardless of whether or not they realize who you are, they will think about the person attacking them, and most likely consider sueing them on the possibility that the other person is getting sexual satisfaction from kicking them (sexual harrassment charges on top of assault charges)

So, then i must ask, why are you posting stories on yahoo Q&A and if this was an honest post, wtf are you doing posting here??

Answer 5

LOLOLOLOLOLOL
I know I shouldn't make fun, but crotch-kicking as a sport is hilarious. As a man, I am of course concerned that it may catch on, but it appeals to my base sense of humour.

To be serious, it seems like your daughter might have some serious anger issues. To strike out so often and randomly indicates a great deal of unresolved ire, and targeting men's genitals makes me think of the possibility of sexual abuse. I would recommend having your daughter visit a therapist.

Answer 6

She is being very immature, mean and cruel, this behavior is unacceptable....But there will be thw boy who strikes back and hurts her in return, that day she will stop, and believe there will be one, my brother had a situation like this when he was in high school, this girl did this to a couple of his friends, the worst part he said was that they were laughing their butts off after they did it , then one day she tried to do it on him and he pushed her so hard that she fell backwards, then she started cursing him and crying and this was the end of her kick the boys in the balls career.

Answer 7

You need to talk to your husband and to a counsellor. This is a form of bullying and you need to stop it. She might have kicked (by accident) a male in that area and saw the painful reaction given.

It obviously is giving her a feeling of empowerment and writing about it in a journal keep dates and memories almost sounds very suspect. She needs a confrontation from you and your husband and to see a counsellor.

You need to address this issue.

Answer 8

Well first oh all reading her diary was a big "NO, NO".
You need to sit her down and have a long talk with her but leave some room for her to explain and tell her you are very dissapointed but don't make it seem like she did the worst thing emaginable. Good Luck.!!! you'll need it cuz teenagers can be very bitchy.... i shud no i am one

Answer 9

Im so sorry.

I think it'd be good if you just straight up asked her if she's ever kicked any kicked between the legs...if she lies then...I dunno.

As a man, I will speak for my team by saying getting kicked in the legs isn't viewed as cool in our Department.

Answer 10

She sounds like she is a little tom girl. Fighting with the boys and all. It probubly is a phase she is going trough but then again she has doing this for a couple of years. One of these days one of those boys are going to hit her back. You should tell your husband. He should really know about his little "princess".