Ok long story short, i use to be in a long term relationship, commitment rings were exchanged, we broke up (it turned into a mess), she moved to a different state, she has never stopped wearing the ring, i gave mine back to her before she left, i fly down and see her at least once a month to make sure everything is well with her (i have moved on). Well a couple of months ago she gave mine back (no real reason), every now and then i might wear it on a necklace or on my finger (again no real reason)... Well a few of my friends have started to say its wrong and doesn’t make sense. And that i shouldn’t go down and see her any more or wear the ring!!! Well one of best mates says she is not going to sit around waiting for everything to go sour, so either cut the ties with her or lose her (best friend) they both are important ppl to me... ok not really a short story lol. Has anyone else gone through this with a friend? Am i doing wrong or just being a good friend.... So confusing....
2006-09-19 13:21:15 · 14 answers · asked by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
All good responses, you all got me thinkning i am going to talk to ex and friend and see what's going on in their head i will let you all know....
2006-09-19 15:05:14 · update #1
you best mate should not put you in this position. If you chose to see your ex that's fine. But what your question doesn't stated is if she is over you. You friends could be worried that she is trying to still have you in her life so she can try to rekindle things. But honestly no-one can answer this for you. It's a question you need to answer on your own dear. But in the long run an ex will always be an ex
2006-09-19 13:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I have to agree with Suicide blonde on this one. Why do you have to get rid of the ring if you are just friends? At least you check on her. It's ok to be friends with an ex,as long as you both know where you stand in your relationships. I wonder if your friend has the hotts for you? Or is she just being over protective? You are not doing wrong, you had a relationship with her-You know her better than a lot of people do,she will always be special to you-even if you move on,she will always be a friend right?
2006-09-19 22:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I believe you are not over this girl yet! And that's why you just can't let go! Reason being you fly down to see her once a month, you say its to make sure everthings well, whats a phone for??? Girl, she isn't the one coming to you and she is the one who left! Let go, let go! Completely! I believe your friends know that you keeping that ring is like your way of still holding on to her, and I believe they don't wanna see you get hurt! I hope you can go on with your life, but it won't happen till you Let go!
2006-09-20 09:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by fairyjin1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is your friend so upset about you wearing the ring? Is she interested in you in a more than a friend way??
On another note, you should probably get rid of the ring...u seem to be holding on to it for some reason...have you really moved on??
2006-09-19 20:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by Travel_Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst you hang on to the ring you hang on to the relationship, I think thats what your friend is trying to get through to you. It is time for you to take the two rings and either hock them or bury them - whatever get rid of them.It doesn't make you less of a friend it just ceremoniously ends that time.Stop visiting your ex : Key word EX. Move on with your life.
2006-09-19 20:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my ex from a few years back gave me a ring and i still wear it, but it doesnt have the same meaning as it once did. i wear it coz i like it, and my ex is my friend so why shouldnt i wear it if i like.
i think u should tell your friends to mind their own business. its up to u whether u wanna wear it or not. just dont wear it for the wrong reasons eg u are still wanting to get back with her or still in love with her etc
2006-09-19 20:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sense a love triangle here...OK if u still have feelings for ur ex why dont u kiss and make-up...love is lovelier d 2nd time around...as d cliche goes.As for ur friend & ex,why do u have to choose between d two? Is she jealous of ur ex? She must give u emotional support & understanding with what u are going thru and not let u choose.How's ur EX?
2006-09-19 20:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by turtlepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your two friends do not want to see you get hurt again...and they also do not choose to be there to pick up the pieces again. They are worried about you and have your best interests at heart.
I recommend the book to you: It's Called A Break-Up...because it's broken. Maybe this will help you. Best wishes.
2006-09-19 20:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being a good friend but its time to move on. if she gave you back the ring, she probably has someone else and she is already being taken care of. talk to her and ask her if she still needs you to visit her.
2006-09-19 20:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose her. A best (true) friend would not give you an ultimatum. If you were committed to one another, that's a different story, but as friends, she has no claims on you.
2006-09-19 20:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋