I am a mother of a 15 year old girl. I was cleaning her room and I saw her diaries, I decided to take a little peek, and I discovered something shocking and disturbing, for what I can tell she have being kicking boys between the legs at least from the third grade until now! I had no idea! Her diary is full of stories about it. And the detail, names and dates, everything is registered. By her words I really can tell she loves it, and is almost like a hobby! She describes the boy’s physical and emotional suffering, and how hilarious she thinks it is and that sometimes….she gets wet!!! And that she and her girlfriends keep score!!!, and the different ways to do it, and that boys never hit back and how funny she thinks that is. I feel very sorry for the kids. Now that she is older, most of the times she pretends to be angry at something they did, she makes up excuses. I just could not continue to read anymore, it makes me want to cry.
2006-09-19 13:18:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
She always seemed to me like a very sweet little girl. How am I going to tell my husband something like this? He is always telling how proud he is of his “little girl”!
I am not thinking straight, I need help here. Anyone had this problem before?
2006-09-19 13:18:53 · update #1
Ashley:
When I was reading her diary I felt guilty but not anymore. To keep it short this is what I told her: A kid had to go to the Doctor and he told his mother what you have being doing and where do you live. It is sexual abuse and you can stop them from making babies or lose a testicle, you can be expelled from school or even go to a “boot camp”. You should only do it if you are all alone and a freak is trying to rape you or kill you. I could tell she was sorry but she was making stupid excuses like “I was just kidding” and “other girls do it”, until her Dad walked into the room; she stopped talking, her face turned very red and then started crying. Boys hate to hurt girls, but the first kid she kicked should had beaten her up after recovering, that way she would never do it again, and the other girls would be afraid too.
2006-09-20 11:12:09 · update #2
I'm not sure what kind of answer you want. You said you didn't know how to tell your husband. I think it shouldn't matter how proud he is of her, this problem needs to be resolved, especially if she's been doing it for like 6 years.
This seems very unusual and strange. You might want to look into a therapist or something too if you can't seem to talk to her or make her stop.
2006-09-19 13:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her you saw her diary and read it. Let her know that you saw the entries. This is going to be tough because you invaded her privacy. I know that's not right, but sometimes it's necessary. This problem isn't going away on its own, especially since it's so longstanding. You need to bring her to a good psychologist even if she doesn't want to go. She is a bully and a sadist even if it is encouraged by her friends. Start her on the right path now, I urge you. She will be kicking and screaming all the way to the psychologist's office no doubt. And I would tell her friends (who have enjoyed this pastime with your daughter) parents about what you know.
On the other side of the coin, she could be making this all up as some angry sexual fantasy that she indulges in nightly. But that's not normal either and again I say CALL THE PSYCHOLOGIST! You love her and you want her life to be normal. You want her to deal with her feelings and aggresssions and anger in a constructive way, not one which may someday be severely retaliated.
I'm sorry for your situation, but her help now.
2006-09-19 20:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by sandra j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is lying and it is her fantasy. If not, why don't you try talking to her about it. Ask her why she is doing that.
If she won't talk about it, take her to a shrink. If that doesn't work, put some young man up to being on guard against her and when she goes for the kick, just cold cock her. Perhaps she doesn't know what pain it. OR he could just kick her in the same place. She definitely is not a normal girl and needs help. Make sure you either prove she is lying or that she sees a shrink. Pops
2006-09-19 20:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick your daughter in the private parts. Then she will understand how much it really hurts a boy. Then publisize her diary and make the whole school hate her. You're a mom, so you wanna reck her life, right? I'm sure youll get through. YOur daughters a perv, mayb u are toooo! : )
2006-09-19 20:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by clap your hands 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter needs help! Go get counseling as a family, so she won't feel stigmatized. You need find out what's going on with her. That is pretty severe behavior. Her behavior is a symptom of something else, it is displaced anger. I would do it ASAP.
2006-09-19 21:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Fraulein 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that what she is doing is assault and no different than if she were to be punching someone in the jaw.
On the plus side, that agression when matured will probably guarantee you a succesful child.
2006-09-19 20:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by WheeeeWhaaaaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, thats hot. if she is a HOTT girl, then i would sacrifice my balls and endure PAIN to see her giggle! she can kick me as hard as she wants! maybe i'll have an erectionn or maybe sperm or PISS will come out of my penis. tell her to come ova my house, i need a good beating. my penis has been naughty. she could kick it. please keep your shoes on, the more PAIN there is, the more FUN it is! kick me! come on! KICK ME! make ME SUFFER!!
2006-09-19 20:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by abc0123459 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
haha your daughters a *****!
2006-09-19 20:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by kristin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋