I just found out I'm pregnant and don't know what to do!!!!! i don't want to get an abortion cuz I'm against killing a baby.... but I dont know what to do!!!!! Please help!!!!
2006-09-19 13:14:26 · 36 answers · asked by TiNg-TiNg 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thank you to everyone who responded I really appreciate it!!!! I will take in to consideration everyting you guys have told me thank you so much!!!!!
2006-09-19 13:32:55 · update #1
Talk to someone knowledgable that you trust about the issue. There is likely a planned parenthood near you and they will help you understand all of your options and help you through counseling with your family if you need it no matter what you decide. They can provide you with the facts about each options available to you. Good luck, and I hope everything turns out okay for you.
2006-09-19 13:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, talk to your parents. They are likely to be upset, but they are your parents. If you think it would be easier, get your parents and his parents together and talk it out with everyone present. If you decide you can't raise the baby, go to a reputable attorney who deals with adoptions and arrange one, now. This way the prospective parents can be involved in the pregnancy with you. Also, if you haven't already, start taking care of yourself - your body needs some TLC, inside and out. Eat right, get plenty of rest, and set up an appointment with either your local health department or OB/GYN. Do what they tell you to do.
Don't let anyone change your mind about an abortion. You were responsible enough to choose to have sex, be responsible enough to accept the consequences.
I had my first child by myself (I was 19 when I got pregnant, but it's a miracle it didn't happen sooner). You can do it with the right support behind you. Make sure your parents understand your views on abortion, clearly. If you have a solid relationship with them, they will be there for you. If your parents aren't an option, go to an adult who can help you (school counselor, grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend's mom).
If you need someone to talk to, you can email me at:
hudsonms1963@yahoo.com
Best of luck to you - don't panic - take one day at a time.
2006-09-19 13:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Well i just want to tell you that im 20 yrs old and am pregnant with my first child. I have a younger sister so your question hit home for me. I also dont believe in abortion. I know that you are younger than me but this issue is very serious. Regardless of what you decide to do think very long and deep into it. There are also other ways to go such as adoption. Yes having a baby this young will be difficult but it isnt impossible. My prayers go out to you and hopefully you'll be at peace with whatever you decide to do.
2006-09-19 13:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by spunkky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK calm down. The first thing you need to do is speak to your parents, they will naturally be upset and may say some cruel things. They love you and will one day apologize. When all the crying and screaming and blaming is over you, not your parents have a choice to make. You can choose to have the baby and raise it or you can give it up for adoption. Either way is hard. If you choose to raise it know that you will be making lots of hard decisions and choices. If you choose adoption it will be just as hard. You can however choose an open adoption wherein you will be allowed to see and have contact with the child over the years. What ever choice you make my heart and wishes go out to you. My parents have adopted 4 children over the years and I don't consider them any less my siblings than I do my biological Sib's. Thank you for not killing a child to solve your problems.
2006-09-19 13:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello my name is Darlene I am 18 years old and I have a 2 1/2 year son.If you can add right I had my son when I was 15.So I know what you going threw first off what you need to do is talk to your mom and dad, then talk to your baby daddy.DON'T have an abortion cause in the long run you will look back and balm yourself.Finish school have your baby and work to take care of you and the baby.you can keep in contact by e-mail darlene33021@yahoo.com
2006-09-19 13:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and the father and going the have to decide if you are ready to be parents. think about it long and hard. i know a baby sounds like a good idea to today's youth, but think about it. you probably don't even have a job, let alone one that pays you enough to support yourself and a child. the father will probably leave and the chances of you staying together in the long run are about 1%. this means that you will be the one raising this child. it will be hard to finish high school, let alone college. you wanna go to the mall with your friends? can't you have to find a babysitter and the money to pay them. i know it sounds harsh, but these are the realities of life. give the baby up for adoption. i'm an adopted child and hold no ill will toward my birth mother. give the baby a chance at the best life possible.
2006-09-19 13:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you have no reason to keep the baby.
You should really talk to your parents, because they may actually welcome a grandchild.... once they get over the shock and anger. Deal with it, they probably will react.
They have a right to.
Then, if they are not in the frame of mind to help you care for a new life... contact an attorney or welfare agency and find some parents to adopt your baby.
There are millions of married couples who cannot have children, and would give your baby a safe and happy home. You could make their dreams come true.
2006-09-19 13:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After 22 days, your child has a heartbeat. Most women don't find out they're even pregnant until after that. You're making the right decision to not dispose of the child. I personally believe that things happen for a reason. This may not be one that you understand, but whether or not you decide to keep the child, chances are, this child will live a happy life, and possibly make life happy for another couple out there too... Good Luck!
2006-09-19 13:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, first off dont listen to that bboyd person. Second, you need to tell your parents and the dad. Dont get an abortion but if you feel you cant keep it and your parents cant or wont help then give the baby up for adoption. Your parents are going to be upset at first, but give them time. If they truely care about you (which they should) they will eventually get over it and help you out. Good luck and I hope that it all works out for you.
2006-09-19 13:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are scared and I am scared for you right now. First things first is talk to the father of the baby. Both of you needs to sit down together and talk this through. Secondly both of you are going to have to go to each others parents and talk about this as soon as possible. I know you are a teenager but this is an adult decision and right now you needs to step up and start thinking like an adult. Go talk to your mom first. Dads can be really hard on their little girls. You and your mom needs to sit down and discuss your options and see what can be done. But please don't kill the baby. I'll be more than happy to adopt if that is the option you come up with. Anyone of us on here would be more than willing to talk to you if you need it.
2006-09-19 13:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋