what would you do?

Question

If you asked your husband why is it when you are trying to have a conversation with him he never responds or says anything? and He answers you with "because everything you talk about aint worth s***". Not just any talk I mean important things like family, finances,housing ,things of that nature? He also said it sounds like Im complaining he does not want to hear it. These are not complains they are just concerns that I want to talk about with him. Every now and then you need to go over things with your spouse to make sure you are both on the same page. Just need some advice from everyday people.

Answer 1

Obviously he is not in touch with your needs, nor your family needs.

Needless to say, you traditional methods to help him become more interested are not working. Therefore, you must try something different that can help him meditate on the facts that you are bring up to the discussion arena, but, at the same time be calmed and patient so you won’t increase tension.

What would I do?

Well, in some moment he will come up with some concern about a certain issue, of course based on his own egotistical needs… when this happens I would tell him “I’m not sure this is worth discussing… I think I should discuss about that”

I’d male a curfew at the kitchen… No lunches, no breakfast and, guess what? “I don’t think it’s worth discussing the issue”

Late at night, during intimacy… Guess again? Not a sound! And afterwards, when the “Are you alright? Do you feel fine?” – type questions come up: I don’t think the issue should be discussed!!!

In other words, help him see himself in a mirror…Don't tell him his words are bull-honky; make him feel like his words are, like we say in latin: excrementum

It's gonna be hard, but, he needs a lesson...

Oh! by the way, that man doesn't desserve a concerned un-selfish woman like yourself...

Answer 2

This guy is a loser! How can you even have a relationship if you cannot communicate? You have no relationship. You have a jerk for a spouse. Get counseling now before it is too late. He probably wouldnt go. In that case, go yourself. Find a free marriage counseling clinic in your area or the VA if you are a veteran.
It looks like somewhere in your marriage you yourself did not comuniate properly. Do you b i t c h at him for other things and the important things with the same tone of voice? If you b i t c h at him for things alot then expect him to respond when things are importrant he wont respond. learn how to talk nice to him all the time and be consistent. tell him you will be cool when you talk and try to be. If he continues to be irresponsible by not communicating properly then tell hin you will divorce him. Then do it if necessary. Dont play games with your life
life is too short. Good luck

Answer 3

Usually when he does some sort of task you have asked him to do and it is not done exactly as you expected, do you complain to him about it? If so, he probably gave up listening to you, because you have used a tone that nags and you may be doing this when you are talking to him about "important stuff".

This does not excuse his response to you. That is very disrespectful to a wife.

Let him know that you just want to talk to him and what is it about you talking to him that bothers him.

If he still give you a disrespectful answer after that, then counseling is the next step and only you can make the next decision after that if he refuses.

I'm very sorry to hear that he responded to you in that way and I hope the best for you.

I sometimes tune my wife out when it is obvious that I am in the middle of a task, but I let her know that I am a bit busy at the moment and when I am done we will resume the conversation. My wife's concerns are not menial.

when we married we became one and so we cannot allow for such disrespect to enter our marriage.

Answer 4

What I do now. It isn't the best solution, but eventually my husband caves. Just keep talking and bringing it up and finally he just talks back. Then when we are finished I tell him if he would just listen and talk to me the first time I wouldn't nag and complain to him for a week. It is starting to work after 3 years of marriage, now when I say lets talk about money, he says hold on let me get something to drink and talks. Just keep trying. Make sure to let your hubby now you are nagging him, you just need to make sure you have the finance in order and would like his help

Answer 5

i have a husband simular to yours,he doesnt like to talk about everyday things neither and he can be quite rude.i think it has something to do with the way they were raised and how they show love is very different.how long have you been together,it also seems the longer people are together the more comfortible they get with each other and they feel like you should already know the answers,its like when you know what they are going to say before it is said.women like talking and cuddling and the feeling of love so i know how you feel but it is no different with any other man.

Answer 6

If we were to talk on the phone OMG!I've been married a very long time and i have the same problem.Just with 1 subject.Hope you 2.Just for thought when i found out my husband wasn't listing to me 1 morning at the breakfast table i asked to use his truck he said sure! So he took my car to work and i went to trade his truck in.When he came home that night he said what's up with the new vehicle in the drive way?I said don't you remember i asked to trade your trunk in for a new car?He was MAD!!!!! HE LISTENS TO EVERYTHING I SAY NOW lol

Answer 7

How frustrating it is to talk to a husband who won't listen...

Set up a time in advance to talk about things. Say sweetly with a smile something like "I know you already have a lot on your mind, but I was wondering if later on after dinner could we talk about some things, nothing bad, just some things that are on my mind?"

Answer 8

This guy you call is a husband has no respect for you. He doesn't care or treat you like his equal. marriage is a 50-50 deal. he is in his own world. Please don't sit there and say well "i love him" you cannot love someone that treat you like sh*t. You need to try to convince him to go to counseling or just divorce him.

Answer 9

He sounds like he is just being a jerk. Some men just have to have something to complain about.

Answer 10

Whenever he wants to talk to you give him a dose of his own medicine and see how he likes it nine times out of ten he wont because men hate to be ignored (the silent treatment).